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Immediate Aftermath...

Posted 23-08-2005 at 13:32 by lettie

I woke up late the next day. My sisters had gone out and mum had gone to work. I peeped from behind the curtains and there was Mark, stood across the road watching the house. I went down stairs and made a brew, I took it back upstairs. Every now and then Mark would hammer on the front door and shout through the letterbox "I know you're in, open the door." I ignored him.

This went on for days, I never left the house but I was so glad to be home that I didn't want to. One by one, old friends started to get in touch. All of my old friends had been told the same story off Mark. He had told them that I hated them all and didn't want them coming to the flat. They knew it wasn't true, and bit by bit I managed to tell them all, what he had done. They were all livid.

I still hadn't told any of the family but found that I had to tell my mum when Grego overheard me talking to one of my mates in my bedroom. She said that if I didn't tell mum, she would tell her. Mum was still speaking to Mark, he was still loitering around, stalking me.......

I finally sat mum down one evening and I told her everything. She was angry, shocked and upset. She said that my situation when I was in the flat with Mark made her think of a line in the Cyndi Lauper song 'Girls just wanna have fun.' - 'Some boys take a beautiful girl and hide her away from the rest of the world.' I was sorry to see mum upset, but it made me feel much better to get it off my chest. Of course, mum was straight on the phone to my dad and the rest of the relatives in Leicester. I had uncles and cousins threatening to convoy up the M6 and put his lights out. I wish that I had let them, but didn't think it was worth them getting into trouble for.

I applied for my nurse training and got an interview. the interview didn't go brilliantly, I was a bag of nerves. They advised me to do some voluntary work and arranged for me to be re-interviewed 6 months later. I liked the look of the nursing school and did exactly as they said. I started my training the following May. My tutor said that they hadn't let me in initially because I had no experience in caring and they were unsure whether I would finish the course. My reply was
" Mark my words Mrs G, I will not only finish this course, but I will pass with flying colours."
- I did......

As more people found out what had happened (including Mark's friends), more people started to ignore him.My weight increased in a few short weeks and I looked healthy again. I started going back out round the Accy pubs with my mixed group of male and female friends. Mark stalked me for about 18 months. It had no effect on me at all. I was no longer frightened of him, I just saw him as pathetic. I never spoke to him or acknowledged his presence in any way. If he tried to speak, I merely walked straight past and never even looked at him. He lost a couple of close friendships as a result of his behaviour.

Some of my mates were becoming fed up that he was tailing us all of the time. One friday night in the Corners Bar, my male friends decided that enough was enough. I left the bar with my female friends, the blokes stayed behind. Mark started to follow us out of the bar and the blokes followed him...... They gave him a proper going over, he kept calling out for me to stop them and I just walked away and left them to it........... He never followed me again and didn't go out for a drink in Accy centre for about 10 years (if my sources are to be believed)

I ran into his mum on Accy market a few months after we split. We finally had that brew. She told me that she had known what he was doing because he had done it to a previous girlfriend, and Mark's dad had done it to her, which was why she'd divorced him. She wanted to get me on my own to try and help me. I told her that he used to say it was because of his head injury. She confirmed that he had been in an accident but had broken his leg, there was no head injury.......... Hehehehe, although there might have been after the beating at the Corners.

I never saw Mark again until 1995. I was working on the labour ward and expecting an admission coming in with abdominal pain. The poor girl came in accompanied by Mark, I felt so sorry for her. I am a professional and I did do the admission. Every time I asked her a question, he answered for her. I took great pleasure in saying "I'm not asking you, I'm asking her, now will you kindly shut up or you will be asked to leave." She looked like she was about to burst out laughing as he blushed bright red, stammered " s-s-s-s-sorry," and lapsed into silence. I was peeing myself laughing when I left that room, I wrote a domestic violence helpline number on her co-op card and they went home.

To be continued........

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    Margaret Pilkington's Avatar

    Re: Immediate Aftermath...

    I would never normally advocate violence, but lettie, I have to say that I whooped with delight to hear that this guy had been given a small taste of his own medicine.......it is just a shame that it could not have been mixed with a bit of mental torture first.
    Posted 23-08-2005 at 13:44 by Margaret Pilkington Margaret Pilkington is offline
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    garinda's Avatar

    Re: Immediate Aftermath...

    He deserved a kicking, though I'm not normally a violent person, but what he did to you, both mentally and physically, deserved what your mates gave him and more.
    Again, like you said before, this heart rending blog deserves karma. Well done Lettie.
    I hope this may help someone who finds themselves in a similar situation.
    Posted 23-08-2005 at 13:48 by garinda garinda is offline
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    slinky's Avatar

    Re: Immediate Aftermath...

    I feel quite sorry for the poor girl that he was with. Womder if she is still at his IRON hand??
    Sometimes it happens when it is too late and you are tied down with a family and a house.
    You was lucky (in a way, if you know what I mean) that you had no ties to this B*****D...................thank god you had your wits and family behind you lettie.
    Posted 23-08-2005 at 16:31 by slinky slinky is offline
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    Re: Immediate Aftermath...

    Tragic story, wonderfully written! Thank you for that Lettie
    Posted 23-08-2005 at 20:25 by Busman747 Busman747 is offline
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    harwood red's Avatar

    Re: Immediate Aftermath...

    thank you thank you thank you for opening old wounds to share with us. I hope it gave you some kind of peace and triumph to be able to say "I beat him and his mind games". Lets just hope that the girl you met in later years also got away. Thanks again Lettie x
    Posted 23-08-2005 at 22:08 by harwood red harwood red is offline
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    Re: Immediate Aftermath...

    hardly know you lettie,but really glad you sorted it and the main thing= your happy now.
    Posted 23-08-2005 at 22:09 by cashman
 

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