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Living with zombies i.e. the living dead

Posted 03-03-2018 at 19:49 by MargaretR

I have considered whether or not to write this for several weeks now. It will offend some people but I feel the need to say it in order to 'get it off my chest'.
I am living in a 'care' home with 30 zombies.
I am unable to leave my room because I am attached to an oxygen generating machine for 24 hours a day. I could have an extra machine installed in the lounge but I know it would get tampered with by the zombie residents, and I don't want their company in the lounge anyway. I had my door wedged ajar when it was hot in the summer - the conversations I overheard were not inspiring.
Dementia has many variations and I have seen them all in here -
The woman in the room next to mine has screaming sessions at least twice a day and sometimes during the night. There are 'wanderers' who aimlesslly shuffle about the corridors day and night. Often they knock on doors or even open doors and enter. I now need to be LOCKED IN my room from 6pm to 8am to prevent these unwelcome visits.
You may think that these visits are harmless but one man was moved out to more secure accommodation because he became violent. The man who wanders naked from the waist down still lives here. Residents sometimes urinate in corridors.. One woman visits rooms collecting clothing and tries to take other items that she fancies.
So I sit here playing PC games as an escape from the lunatic behaviour.
I sleep a lot but am often disturbed by wanderers in the night who try to open my locked door. I have persuaded the staff that I don't need them to check I am still breathing every two hours during the night- that was another sleep disturbing practice.
As well as the oxygen canula I have a urinary catheter so there is no way I could survive living in a place of my own. I have no choice but to live in this Bedlam.
The food is abysmal too - I have a grocery delivery every two weeks because the warmed up ready meals served at noon have meat that is so tough that I broke scissors trying to cut it up.
The fish dishes are all cheap grey coley fish in 'cardboard' casings.
I have lactose intolerance so have a good excuse to turn away many of the meals they serve. Even the soups served a few times a week at 4pm are rehydrated packet soups which have milk in the thickening agents.
I refuse the chip butties and the jam butties because of the butter, and I don't regard them as nourishment.
I have one decent meal a day - breakfast - scrambled egg with lacto free cheese pieces on the side. I have my Tefal One Cup machine to make my own hot drinks and they provide a small jug of lacto free milk. The egg is scrambled because it the only way it can be cooked without risk of arriving semi RAW- it is often overcooked and rubbery. There is no-one who can cook here- they just warm up ready cooked food. I had a bad case of the trots a few months ago and discovered that the were giving me soya milk instead of real lacto free milk - they now bring the carton to my room to fill my jug so I can see that I get real milk.
So I enjoy my tinned tuna, salmon, sardines and jellied beef. I also buy lactose free cake and biscuits. I buy my own tea bags and instant coffee (their tea and coffee tasted the same - weak dishwater) I spend about 24 a week on groceries and considering that the LCC take all my income for the fees, leaving me with 28 a week - I can manage that - just about - extra luxuries like new nightwear or a PC game deplete my savings.
My existence here is not living - it is stressful survival - my son has has said he will seek and move me to another 'care' home if I wish but there is no guarantee that the next one would be better - maybe even worse (heaven forbid).
The Care Quality Commission ranked this place 'good' - all I can say is that demented people will eat any junk put before them and don't have the mental capacity to complain. I am careful not to complain too much- I don't want to antagonise the staff - especaily after I heard the screaming woman next door say 'Don't hit me please'.
Here's hoping that voluntary euthanasia becomes legal.
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    Margaret Pilkington's Avatar
    Oh Margaret, my heart bleeds for you.
    That someone who is intelligent, but needing physical care that cannot be delivered in a home environment, it is torture for you to be subjected to this substandard care...and whatever the CQC IS substandard.

    I hope your son does find you a different home that will look after you in the way you should be looked after.
    Posted 03-03-2018 at 20:23 by Margaret Pilkington Margaret Pilkington is offline
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    Margaret, that's a terrible story. We read it but there's nothing we can do. God forbid it happens to me.
    Keep strong, it's all you can do. It shouldn't develop into this. You deserve more.
    Posted 03-03-2018 at 22:51 by Gordon Booth Gordon Booth is offline
    Updated 03-03-2018 at 23:00 by Gordon Booth
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    Oh Margaret, what a shocking state of affairs. It sounds like something from the dark ages, doesn't appear that anything has improved since then. No one should be treated like this and you should be getting looked after with care and with consideration for your well-being. You should be treated with respect and dignity. The situation as it is is absolutely disgraceful.

    I feel so very sorry for you, Margaret, and hope that your son can find a better Care place for you to go to very soon. Surely it would be an improvement on this horror story.
    Posted 04-03-2018 at 04:51 by dotti34 dotti34 is offline
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    cashman's Avatar
    Hope yeh are moved from that nuthouse soon Margaret.
    Posted 04-03-2018 at 10:56 by cashman cashman is offline
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    DaveinGermany's Avatar
    Don't see how your recounting things as you find them can be seen as offending. Bad practices & ineptitude should always be exposed & held up for what they are.

    Hopefully you'll get your move soon to somewhere better.
    Posted 04-03-2018 at 12:02 by DaveinGermany DaveinGermany is offline
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    MargaretR's Avatar
    Thanks for your messages. My son is very preoccupied at the minute with hospital admission of mother in law in Morecambe. She is older than me and has had both kidneys removed - cancer. Her husband needs help with visiting - he is even older and very frail. She has been having dialysis for a long time before this hosp admission - this now looks like she is near the end of her time.
    I am web searching myself and have sent for some brochures and info from other homes.
    I thought that some people would be offended by my calling them zombies.
    Posted 04-03-2018 at 13:00 by MargaretR MargaretR is offline
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    cashman's Avatar
    Well i called it a nuthouse Matgaret And i dont give a stuff.
    Posted 04-03-2018 at 13:42 by cashman cashman is offline
  8. Old Comment
    Margaret Pilkington's Avatar
    As far as I can see, a lot of these homes are just waiting rooms for the dying.
    They(in the main) offer no real attempt at making life valid or enjoyable for the people in their care.
    It is a very sad state of affairs.
    When you get to the end of a useful and productive life, you should be able to rely on having some comfort.
    Posted 04-03-2018 at 13:42 by Margaret Pilkington Margaret Pilkington is offline

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