Funerals

[Loz]

I'm not sure about photos from funerals but i kept all my Mum's rememberence cards because there were lovely things written about her and we got so many it showed us how much she meant to so many people,i look through them from time to time if i'm feeling a bit blue and reading all the lovely memories of my Mum makes me feel better.
Guess its all down to personal preference though.

[harwood red]

Sorry to hear of two sad losses of two young women

er indoors did your sister work at the co op in great harwood??

[Loz]

Thanks Cashy!
You are a big softy!

[ANNE]

Music choice up to them so long as it's summat i like from Beatles, oasis, Elvis, M & M, Texas, what ever.
Funeral to be kept simple and has cheap as they can possibly make it.
No tears to be shed for me. They have got to have fun with a capital F.
Party, party, party is the order of the day.
celebrate my life not mourn my death.
My Ashes are to be thrown to the winds, somewere nice.

[garinda]

I don't want a funeral.

If whoever decides they want to give me one, that is up to them.

I'd much rather enjoy the beauty of music and flowers whilst I'm still on this mortal coil.

There'll be no headstone, and no physical reminder of my life.

That's my choice.

If I am to leave any legacy, it will hopefully live on in the people I have loved whilst on this planet.

[Benipete]

Originally Posted by garinda

I don't want a funeral.

If whoever decides they want to give me one, that is up to them.

I'd much rather enjoy the beauty of music and flowers whilst I'm still on this mortal coil.

There'll be no headstone, and no physical reminder of my life.

That's my choice.

If I am to leave any legacy, it will hopefully live on in the people I have loved whilst on this planet.

Well that just about says it all for me aswell.Thank you.

['erindoors]

Originally Posted by harwood red

Sorry to hear of two sad losses of two young women

er indoors did your sister work at the co op in great harwood??

Yes hun, she did.

Gail xxxx

[jambutty]

Originally Posted by Gayle

Well I have been to a funeral today - very sad as it was a young woman.

One thing that struck me was that no one knows when they're going to go and if you're a control freak like me, who's going to organise the event to my liking?

For instance - choosing three songs that mean something.

After the funeral I was talking to my dad and said about the songs and he immediately rattled off his three songs, so since then I've been thinking of mine and I came up with

I will always love you by Dolly Parton
Friends by The Rembrandts
My Way by Duran Duran

It might be an idea to think of yours now so that if the worst happens everyone knows how you want your last party organising.

Just a point Gayle – it is always very sad when someone dies regardless of age and sex.

Picking just three tunes is going to be very, very difficult. But here goes.

I would start off with the beautiful and moving:
“Prelude To Act1 La Traviata” played by the New York Metropolitan Opera Orchestra

Followed by something to laugh at. It’s a toss up between:
“It’s In The Book” by Johnny Standley
and
“Our Joe Won’t Be With Us Much Longer” a monologue read by Al Read

Ending with as my coffin disappears into the flames:
“We’ll Meet Again” played by the Lew Stone Orchestra with vocal by Sam Browne.

[harwood red]

Originally Posted by 'erindoors

Yes hun, she did.

Gail xxxx

PM sent

[WillowTheWhisp]

I find some deaths sadder than others. I've 'lost' quite a lot of people just recently but the elderly widow in her 80s didn't seem as sad to me as a young mother. They will all be missed but when it's an older person who is going to be with her already deceased husband it seems more like a homecoming than it does for a young person who has so much still ahead of them, and children who will still need them when they are gone.

[Loz]

Originally Posted by WillowTheWhisp

I find some deaths sadder than others. I've 'lost' quite a lot of people just recently but the elderly widow in her 80s didn't seem as sad to me as a young mother. They will all be missed but when it's an older person who is going to be with her already deceased husband it seems more like a homecoming than it does for a young person who has so much still ahead of them, and children who will still need them when they are gone.

How true.
My Mum was relatively young when she died,49,and i was only 14 and feel like i missed so much and her too,today for example,getting married without her around
On the other hand my Grandad is 91,quite ill at the moment and keeps saying hes had enough and just wants to go to sleep,i don't know if i will shed a tear when he dies because he has had a great life but is suffering now and just want him to be at peace.
Funny how things turn out

[Less]

Originally Posted by Eric

never heard of "Old Red Eyes Is Back"

There you go Eric.

At my Mothers funeral She had, 'Wish me luck as you wave me goodbye',

It made me smile.

[Gayle]

Yes, I didn't mean it to sound like I'm heartless when it comes to deaths of older people - my Grandad died eight years ago and I still go away sometimes and have a cry about it (the other week when we were talking about songs that mean a lot to us, for example!). I still haven't been able to listen to the link that Less posted for me.

I think what I meant was that when it's an older person you can celebrate their life, you have many generations of a family there who are recognising the wisdom and love that has been passed on to them. When it's a younger person (for example the woman I knew who had two young children) it just feels plain wrong to be at their funeral.

[jaysay]

I had a funeral on my mind about 7am last Tursday when they loaded me into an ambulace and carted me off to the Royal, but I'm back to carry on for a little while longer
I've given things a lot of thought this week, like I'm going to be nice to very one on Accy Web from now on, except one No its not you Tory hatting Mancie
I've restated that I don't want burying, its the fire for me, and there has to be no black at my funeral I want everyone to be happy not sad
my three songs would be Stairway to Heaven, Sunshine of your love, Cream, and the third the families choice
By the way my ashes are going to be scattered at Great Yarmouth, I love the place, its like Blackpool without the dirt

[Benipete]

I started to worry when I was moved to my new flat,It's in between my Doctors and the Funeral Directors.With this in mind I arranged to be cremated at Darwen Cemetary as there is a bus every 20 mins.from Accy.That passes the bottom of my street.(always the thoughtful one)