Is Chivalry Dead - Page 3

Gayle · 18-09-2008, 21:41

Can I ask a door opening etiquette question please?

Imagine if you will, a corridor with a door at either end. A gentleman who is taking you to his office for a meeting opens the first door for you (the lady) to walk through. That puts you in front as you walk down the corridor. So, what do you do when you get to the next door? As the woman should I stand aside and allow him to open it or should I open it and just walk through ahead or should I (for the sake of equality) open it for him?

Genuine answers only please! I found myself in this situation once or twice and never know what to do.

cashman · 18-09-2008, 21:43

i would think in that situation, open it fer him.

AccyLass · 18-09-2008, 21:46

See... thats the thing with "chivalry"I would think it cheeky... if I was male... which... I'm not

I would think it cheeky... if you were stood there waiting
Expecting me to come and open it

So thats when it aint chivalry anymore... it's expected

And I think to be honest, it's all just pure MANNERS
Men and women should have these, young AND old
It costs nothing to open a door and the person in receipt to say thankyou
It is just politeness

lancsdave · 18-09-2008, 21:49

As he his leading the way to his office then you should wait for him to lead the way

West Ender · 18-09-2008, 21:52

Speaking purely personally, I love a bit of old-fashioned chivalry from a gentleman. If he holds a door open for me I'll give him a smile and thank him and if he stands up when I come into the room he's the one I'll direct my greeting to.

It's not because I don't think I'm his equal. On the contrary I know damn well that, if anything, I'm his superior and he's acknowledging that by his deferrence. Women's Lib had some good points but, on the whole, I think it did women a great disservice because it made some women think they had to be on level terms with men. No way, Josephine, I'll stay above them, thanks.

It does no harm to work it the other way, either. I hate to see women who treat chivalrous gestures with contempt. To me, that's the height of ignorance and bad manners.

katex · 18-09-2008, 21:55

I would wait for him to catch up to open the door for me, due to the fact that he felt it was his role to open the first door for me. Wouldn't want to insult him by depriving him of this good deed a second time.
Maybe, if not a formal escort , would probably open the door for him, and remark lightheartedly ... "My turn".

West Ender · 18-09-2008, 21:56

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Originally Posted by Gayle

Can I ask a door opening etiquette question please?

Imagine if you will, a corridor with a door at either end. A gentleman who is taking you to his office for a meeting opens the first door for you (the lady) to walk through. That puts you in front as you walk down the corridor. So, what do you do when you get to the next door? As the woman should I stand aside and allow him to open it or should I open it and just walk through ahead or should I (for the sake of equality) open it for him?

Genuine answers only please! I found myself in this situation once or twice and never know what to do.

Happened to me a lot when I was working. The true gent will, when you reach the door, make quite sure he gets there first and opens it for you. If he doesn't bother, assume he isn't very chivalrous and open it for him.

cashman · 18-09-2008, 21:58

meself i'm with accylass on this, think she summed it up very well.

Royboy39 · 18-09-2008, 22:02

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Originally Posted by West Ender

It's not because I don't think I'm his equal. On the contrary I know damn well that, if anything, I'm his superior and he's acknowledging that by his deferrence. Women's Lib had some good points but, on the whole, I think it did women a great disservice because it made some women think they had to be on level terms with men. No way, Josephine, I'll stay above them, thanks.

Open the bloody door yourself then....superior being

West Ender · 18-09-2008, 22:05

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Originally Posted by Royboy39

Open the bloody door yourself then....superior being

Who asked you, inferior creature?

Royboy39 · 18-09-2008, 22:07

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Originally Posted by West Ender

Who asked you, inferior creature?

Like it.............Cheeky Moo

katex · 18-09-2008, 22:08

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Originally Posted by lancsdave

As he his leading the way to his office then you should wait for him to lead the way

I have visited many offices in strange buildings, being met in reception by men, and never once have they expected me to open the door myself to let them through. Just occasionally, if the door opened away from you, they would they say "After you" but held back the door as I walked through.

Best ones are those with automatic doors, then no decision to be made ...