Portrayal of women: (split) - Page 8

accymel · 04-11-2006, 12:13

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Originally Posted by Tinkerbelle

That goes for most things not just weight issues. People regardless of who they are, have a hang-up about a particular part of their body. If someone is fat, or thin or has a big nose (thanks Mez

) or wears glasses, I'm sure that person knows that themselves and may be self conscious about it, they hardly need it pointing out and drawing attention to it from someone else. Just a case of putting ones brain into gear before opening ones gob me does think.

Dont worry tinks mine is ... "aqualine" ..too

so u aint on yer own

accymel · 04-11-2006, 12:17

Thing ive learnt over the years being bullied for everything so far lol is that the only person that has the problem is the person that subjects judgement onto someone for whatever reason, if someone insists on bringing a weight or height or whatever issue means that 'that' person themselves have the issue not the person subjected to it!

I mean if you aint got a problem with it .....then why do they bring it up then?

Mind u i have yet for someone to come up with something new & insulting to call me

lol water off a ducks back

Tinkerbelle · 04-11-2006, 12:25

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Originally Posted by accymel

Mind u i have yet for someone to come up with something new & insulting to call me

Hmmm

....... I'l get my thinking cap on

slinky · 04-11-2006, 12:27

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I mean if you aint got a problem with it .....then why do they bring it up then?

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Not sure if that is aimed at me and this thread?? But I will reply anyway. I brought this thread up because, It is one of my absolute hates when people think it is o.k to put people down about weight issues. I hate people who thinks it is o.k to call someone FAT, STICK THIN, ANOREXIC ( when they aren't they are just slim) being a Anorexic is a Illness - being slim is just what you are even though you eat see the difference. Making judgments on peoples sizes can have a lasting impact on that person, even though the person that makes the judgement may never ever think of the comment they made ever again.

accymel · 04-11-2006, 12:27

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Originally Posted by Tinkerbelle

Hmmm

....... I'l get my thinking cap on

If ya do i will give ya a round of applause for originality

lol

accymel · 04-11-2006, 12:37

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Originally Posted by slinky

Not sure if that is aimed at me and this thread?? But I will reply anyway. I brought this thread up because, It is one of my absolute hates when people think it is o.k to put people down about weight issues. I hate people who thinks it is o.k to call someone FAT, STICK THIN, ANOREXIC ( when they aren't they are just slim) being a Anorexic is a Illness - being slim is just what you are even though you eat see the difference. Making judgments on peoples sizes can have a lasting impact on that person, even though the person that makes the judgement may never ever think of the comment they made ever again.

Nope its just aimed generally at the name callers.....but also yeh it could go for the thread too, people call people because of their ignorance, own in security & having a narrow mind - one thing that took me a long time to get in line was my own reaction to it [ask your tinks about my school years!] people say hurtful stuff to make themselves feel better & to gain reaction in hope others join the bandwagon so makes them feel GOOD or popular [saddo's] - so whats the worse thing you can do is fuel their fire with a reaction!!! I do the absolute opposite & well practised on one person i feared & it works cos it takes the power off them to yourself, like i said i dont take offense to name calling in fact immune had it too long over my life & like i said above i've yet to find someone to be original & call me something i haven't been called before if they have to, i will give em a round of applause - only happened a few times tho & it shocks them more that i aint bothered but clapped em for it with a

I dont know what started this slinky so cant comment about it but i've known you for a long time & know u as a person & i know u can hold yer own no matter what.

Tinkerbelle · 04-11-2006, 12:38

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Originally Posted by slinky

It is one of my absolute hates when people think it is o.k to put people down about weight issues.

I think it's just the way we are. Maybe subconsciously it makes us feel better about our own hang-ups if we criticise someone elses. I suppose it starts very young, in schools .... skinny, fatty, specky, bean pole. Maybe it's just easier to criticise than to give compliments. I dunno ... what I do know though is it would be boring if we were all the same.

accymel · 04-11-2006, 12:46

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Originally Posted by Tinkerbelle

I think it's just the way we are. Maybe subconsciously it makes us feel better about our own hang-ups if we criticise someone elses. I suppose it starts very young, in schools .... skinny, fatty, specky, bean pole. Maybe it's just easier to criticise than to give compliments. I dunno ... what I do know though is it would be boring if we were all the same.

Too true

Kids are mega mean!! LOL Surprising how many can still hold onto that time me included, i must admit i find it so much easier to take criticisms than actual genuine compliments

auto pilot comes on a bit quick

slinky · 04-11-2006, 12:50

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Originally Posted by accymel

Too true

Kids are mega mean!!

Some adults can be just as mean Mel, it's not fair just to say it's kids....

accymel · 04-11-2006, 12:53

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Originally Posted by slinky

Some adults can be just as mean Mel, it's not fair just to say it's kids....

Think u need to re read Slinky it was in reference to it starting at school as tinks post. Dont i know adults can be mean 1st lesson i learnt slinky, seems that who-ever started this has got just what they set out to do which is to upset you.

Tinkerbelle · 04-11-2006, 12:53

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Originally Posted by slinky

Some adults can be just as mean Mel, it's not fair just to say it's kids....

Some adults?

I've had this conversation many times! There's no-one meaner than adults. Give me a gang of name calling kids over nasty evil adults who should know better anyday.

Neil · 04-11-2006, 13:03

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Originally Posted by slinky

It is one of my absolute hates when people think it is o.k to put people down about weight issues. I hate people who thinks it is o.k to call someone FAT, STICK THIN, ANOREXIC....

We all do it Slinky, whether we realise it or not. Have a look at these 2 quotes while I go and hide.

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Originally Posted by slinky

20 years ago!!!! I was on the school bus watching TINKS bully the fat lad lmao.........hey he's a big ****** now lol.

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Originally Posted by slinky

Tell him to keep him interfering, ugly, half witted, no good, fat head out of your garden....

accymel · 04-11-2006, 13:05

Neil run & hide LOL but again very true point & a sad fact of human nature.

slinky · 04-11-2006, 13:10

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Originally Posted by Neil

We all do it Slinky, whether we realise it or not. Have a look at these 2 quotes while I go and hide.

Yeah but he does have a fat head lol...... well done Neil I applaud you.

I would never say that to his face though.......and yes as a kid I was just as evil as any other kid.

Don't hide Neil... you made a comment, and that is good. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

accymel · 04-11-2006, 13:13

I find the worst of the worse for hurtful biatchyness is women - they are really cruel - even worse hormonal LOL