[WillowTheWhisp]

I agree with Gayle. I know someone whose elderly father has Alzheimer's and his wife was determined to look after him at home as in his more lucid moments that was where he wanted to be, but he would get up in the middle of the night and go walk about. If she locked the doors he would climb through the window because he thought he was in prison and needed to escape. It wasn't until the next morning often that she would realise he was missing. She got locks on the windows, even got bars on the upstairs windows because she was afraid he would climb through them and fall and break his neck but of course that only confirmed his conviction that he was in prison. He would be found wandering about outside in the rain wearing just pyjamas and no slippers.

So where was the daughter in all this? She couldn't have the father in her home because he refused to believe she was his daughter and flatly refused to have anything to do with her. To him his daughter was 20 years younger than this strange woman who wanted to kidnap him. The daughter herself isn't even in the best of health. His mind may well be failing but he is still a big strong man and will fight anyone if he thinks they are lying to him or trying to lock him up.

When he has got out and gone wandering his family have been worried sick until he has been found again. He is now in residential care because the family are no longer able to cope. Knowing everything they have been through I would not dream of criticising them for reaching this decision which wasn't arrived at lightly.

People talk about tagging taking away the person's dignity. The Alzheimer's has already done that. The tag will help to restore some of that dignity if they can be found before they do anything embarrassing or dangerous.