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flashy 30-12-2007 15:56

How Old......?
 
i used to bake every week with my gran, i'd say from about the age of 4, i've always involved Reece in helping me make our meals and now he can make some things himself, he's just made a lovely spaghetti bolognaise for tea (i was supervising) is he too young to be cooking meals or not?
As i've mentioned before he can already use the washer and the dryer and several other things in the house (not the iron yet though)

i want him to be independant when he grows up and be able to fend for himself.

my Question is....

is he too young at 11 to be doing all these things?

WillowTheWhisp 30-12-2007 15:59

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Certainly not. The more he gets involved in things like that the better he will be able to look after himself when he gets older.

emamum 30-12-2007 16:01

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i agree with willow.... as long as he is aware of the hazards and you are not far away, probably best to give have a quick chat about first aid 2 just to be on the safe side?

harwood red 30-12-2007 16:01

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no, no and thrice no

good on ya Flashy, teach em young and then it becomes the norm to them and not a chore!

I know many people on here think I am tough on my two, but they have been doing most things from a pretty young age and now they are 14 & 16 and could prob run a household pretty well...except.....

cooking...sorry but 1, I hate my kitchen 2, I think cooking is a real chore & 3, I have no patience with it although I am not too bad at cooking.

however, my youngest makes a mean homemade apple pie, thanks to his grandma

SO YOU KEEP AT IT SHAZ :psmile:

flashy 30-12-2007 16:02

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ive taught him to sweep the stairs, clean his room, wash up, do the washing (not all the time of course) but when i say 'Reece will you stick the washer on please' he knows what to do, he's even started wanting to go to town on his own now...he's been into Accrington twice, but i always make sure he takes his mobile with him, with living at Intack we are in the middle of Accy and Blackburn so going to either town is just the same, i dont force him to do these things but i think its just part of growing up

Lilly 30-12-2007 16:09

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I think you're doing just right. As well you not being a martyr to him, you've also done him and his future partner a big favour.

Who wants a fella whose mum has done everything for him? He'll only expect you to carry on in the same fashion. LOL :pohmy:

kathleen_firth 30-12-2007 16:14

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i dont think its ever too earlyreally as long as your supervising my niece is always helping me cook and she is three... dont let her go near the cooker for obvious reasons.
but as u said he will be independant when he moves out.

flashy 30-12-2007 16:16

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by the way, this isnt a thread about me, me, me (yes uncle Gary i know i waffle;) ) i just wanted opinions :D

AccyLass 30-12-2007 16:23

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It is never too early to teach or encourage someone to be self sufficient.
It's definitely a better idea than just letting them do nothing, then all of a sudden in their teenage years, they are expected to clean their room, do washing up and so on.
That will definitely cause problems, but if they grow up with it and as someone else said, if they think it's the norm, they will just get on with it.
My lad is 3 and he knows his bedroom has to be tidy, if he gets stuff out he has to put it away and so on, always wants to put my washing machine on and stuff
It can only do them good:psmile:

cashman 30-12-2007 16:25

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not too young at all flashy, think its the best thing ANY parent can teach a child.nice one.:pwink:

derekgas 30-12-2007 17:15

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Originally Posted by cashman (Post 509869)
not too young at all flashy, think its the best thing ANY parent can teach a child.nice one.:pwink:

At a young age I thought I would like to be a chef, and could pretty much cook sunday roast by age 11, I do all the cooking now, and help out with ironing, washing and I do most of the cleaning (deep cleaning, not the daily vac), my gran was a baker, mum used to machine sew, so I am used to all of that, and it is down to having done just as you have your little on do.

flashy 30-12-2007 17:25

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Derek there arent many men like you around, good on ya :D

glasgow guy 30-12-2007 18:01

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blimey...not at all...I learned to cook from an early age as my mum was never in and my big sis wasnt willing to help...it helped me big time as I also learned to wash my own clothes and fend for myself - all at the age of 12 ! - put me in good stead for later life I can tell you...cos by the time I was 15 I was doing the shopping and the housework..in fact the learning to bake at an early age encouraged me to take cookery at secondary school and then my o levels in it..
and just cos I am older doesnt mean I have changed - I still do all the housework, washing, cleaning and shopping - I leave her to do the spending !!

jackyalex 30-12-2007 18:02

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hes not too young flashy, and just think your future daughter-in-law wont be complaining to you for him being lazy and not being able to do anything for himself

derekgas 30-12-2007 18:08

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Originally Posted by flashytart (Post 509895)
Derek there arent many men like you around, good on ya :D

Thanks flashy, although when I was married I did very little, my ex wife didn't work, so I worked, she lokked after the house, my new partner works full time, as do I, we have children, so the only choice is chip in, bit of a shock to the system, but a bit like riding a bike as they say (I don't know why they say that because a bike would frighten me to death! lol)

Yolanda25 30-12-2007 18:10

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Aww, thats soo good, i have a friend, who is 24 and his mum still brushes his hair(he has long hair) and makes his bed, and tells him to make sure to brush his teeth at nite,pathetic? very, he cant even cook and egg without burning the whole kithen.

nikkival 30-12-2007 18:28

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Keep it up Flashy - I've always encouraged my son to help around the house and cook - he's actually going to take Catering as a GCSE next year, but not because he wants to become a chef - he described it to me as a 'life skill'.

panther 30-12-2007 19:08

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my son is 6 and he cleans his own bedroom(after a little bit of moaning though;), and my daughter whos 14 cleans her room , loves to cook(cakes), and even does her own ironing!....kids need to learn to do things on thier own to be independant when they do get into adulthood, other wise they will do nowt, then what they gonna do when us, the parents are no longer around:(

cashman 30-12-2007 22:24

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glad i joined accyweb, threads like this, give me more faith in people, cos i have met n know a lot of real knobheads. cheers.:psmile:

Bonnyboy 30-12-2007 23:00

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11 years old...hope ya got him hangin' wallpaper, paintin etc.:pnowink::psmile:

katex 30-12-2007 23:02

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Originally Posted by cashman (Post 510062)
glad i joined accyweb, threads like this, give me more faith in people, cos i have met n know a lot of real knobheads. cheers.:psmile:

Well, I must be one of your knobheads then Cashy, followed mum's beliefs, that she showed me how, but never pushed it, as believed I would have to do enough when I eventually got married ..... let me enjoy my childhood without the encumbrances of domestic duties.

Done this with my children too, and they are better cooks than me.

Domesticity is a pain in the ass .. better things to do in life .. :prolleyes:

Benipete 31-12-2007 01:34

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Started cooking at 9 bricklaying at 13 did this affect my rock cakes

flashy 31-12-2007 10:13

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Originally Posted by katex (Post 510082)
Well, I must be one of your knobheads then Cashy, followed mum's beliefs, that she showed me how, but never pushed it, as believed I would have to do enough when I eventually got married ..... let me enjoy my childhood without the encumbrances of domestic duties.

Done this with my children too, and they are better cooks than me.

Domesticity is a pain in the ass .. better things to do in life .. :prolleyes:


i know what you mean Kate, he does do kiddie things, i take him places, he plays out with his friends and does everything else that kids do too
:D

Mr Aleks 31-12-2007 10:14

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Get him working! and if he stops grab the whip you have

MargaretR 31-12-2007 10:25

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We tend to forget that working age in th 1920s and 30s was 13/14 - and many of the jobs were strenuous physically (mining and heavy industry)

I am not suggesting that those days return, but it serves to remind us that we may be underestimating what our youngsters could be capable of.

Mr Aleks 31-12-2007 10:30

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Originally Posted by [email protected] (Post 510216)
We tend to forget that working age in th 1920s and 30s was 13/14 - and many of the jobs were strenuous physically (mining and heavy industry)

I am not suggesting that those days return, but it serves to remind us that we may be underestimating what our youngsters could be capable of.

Most youngsters today cant speak properly or even read or write well enough. Its all over the news too. some kids just dont seem to give a toss about their future.

flashy 31-12-2007 10:37

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i'm only leading by example, my late mum used to show us how to do everything and i've just taken it from there

Mr Aleks 31-12-2007 10:55

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Its good to see a parent that gives a shi7. Alot of kids are out till gone past midnight and sorry but my kids will not be!

mez 31-12-2007 11:45

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good on ya flashy its a credit to you, he will thank you later on in life im sure:thumbsup:

howarth 01-01-2008 13:40

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hey shaz ure spot on, as Reece and Jack ae the same age, i dnt want my son to be a wuss lol that cnt do out for him self ( like certain person who lives near us and is older than our 2 ?? ) jack makes us brews, & he sorts his room out, i think its very important that they get to do things around the house as it gives them a sence of responcability, the next thing i want to do is let jack go in town with his mates :( i mean ive let him go to the cinema with a few of his mates from school, ive dropped him off then picked him back up............

Hey kids dnt u just lurve em .......... lol

flashy 01-01-2008 14:42

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lol Em you've got it all to come again yet TWICE ;) i know what you mean about the wuss round the corner (Dawn of the shed stop laughing) ;) she has wrapped him up in cotton wool for so long, i'm sure he cant even fasten his own shoe laces yet :D


and Emma...i cant seem to get used to the fact that your calling me Shaz lol its ok you can call me by my real name :D;)

howarth 01-01-2008 14:56

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lol i know it seems strange when im typing it lol its just dnt sound right comming from me does it lol xx

flashy 01-01-2008 15:53

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lol no it doesnt, you usually call me Nida ;)

Dawn-of-the-Shed 01-01-2008 18:03

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[quote=flashytart;510983]lol Em you've got it all to come again yet TWICE ;) i know what you mean about the wuss round the corner (Dawn of the shed stop laughing) ;) she has wrapped him up in cotton wool for so long, i'm sure he cant even fasten his own shoe laces yet :D

Me laugh... I'm sure I don't know what I would laugh at !!!:D.....but gotta agree with everyone you need to give kids that responsibility or they will grow up not having a clue......My eldest ( now 20 ) due to me not being able to myself thru illness...... cud do a full weekly shop at 16 and then cook for his 3 siblings.....My daughter and 2 younger sons also know what chores need doing and often help out :)...Although the bedroom tidying often needs persuasion !

flashy 01-01-2008 18:35

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you not left home yet then mrs? ;) hehee





p.s i dont know why the hell i keep calling you mrs

Dawn-of-the-Shed 01-01-2008 18:50

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Originally Posted by flashytart (Post 511180)
you not left home yet then mrs? ;) hehee





p.s i dont know why the hell i keep calling you mrs


No thought I'd hang around ... a chat with a good friend an realised I quite like it here! ....anyway too cold to sleep in a leaky tent LOL !:D

flashy 01-01-2008 18:54

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i have a feeling that our waffling is going to be removed mrs, i shoulda put this in anything goes ;)

that tent looked lonely the other night, you shoulda slept in it :D

emamum 01-01-2008 19:16

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Aleks (Post 510240)
Its good to see a parent that gives a shi7. Alot of kids are out till gone past midnight and sorry but my kids will not be!


:eek:u wnt kids?

flashy 01-01-2008 19:18

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ACTUALLY he's quite good with kids lol

emamum 01-01-2008 19:32

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im starting to think aleks is a nice guy realy?

garinda 01-01-2008 19:42

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No, he's not too young, as long as he's supervised. I think it's a great way to bring him up.

My parents, particularly my Mum, made sure my brother and myself could cook good, wholesome meals from about the age of ten. She wanted to make sure we could look after ourselves if needed, and never have to rely on others to make sure we were well fed.

At eighteen the saddest people at college were the students who didn't even know how to boil an egg.

emamum 01-01-2008 19:46

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i remember going away in my last yar of high school and loads of the girls didnt know how to put a duvet in its cover... lol

MargaretR 01-01-2008 19:46

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My eldest grandson is at uni and his flatmates consider him such a good cook that they excuse him all other chores as long as he does all the cooking


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