kids penpals Help!!
 

:Banane10: If my daughter doesn't get out and meet some friends soon i'll go mad, or even someone her own age to talk to, so if any of you have children who would like to get in touch with her, pm me and i will sort it out, here's hoping x P.S she is 12. Going on 40

We might have to sort out some kind of verification.

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My sister lives in France and has 4 kids, one is about that age, I'll email and see if she would like a pen(email)pal. That won't get her out and about though. What hobbies etc does she have, is there any clubs that she could join? What about things like Guides/Girls Brigade?

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Thanks guys. She doesn't seem to be able to connect to other people her age. She goes to a church club, but only likes it if theres not many people there. She's so lovely tho and its just not fair :mad: She needs to toughen up in this harsh world. But i wouldn't want her to lose her qualities :)

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Just one thought Nell

Does she want to connect to others yet? When I was her age I was painfully shy. I knew about 3 people at school (and 2 of them were the fat lads in the class). I just didn't get on with people at that age. Yet I was quite happy in my own little world. (yes you lot sniggering at the back there, I know you think I'm still in my own little world!)

I became the shy retiring bloke I am now when I went to Uni. I wouldn't push her too hard or it will become difficult for both of you and you may lose those qualities you like in her. We all are different, perhaps she just needs a bit longer or a particular event in her life to bring her out of her shell.

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Your right about us all being different and it wouldn't be so bad if she was content to be a loner, but she's not. She's deeply unhappy about not having any friends. She's very much an individual and would never cowtow to her peers. She is content to not be popular, and to have lots of friends, but she would just like that someone who she could winge about me to, as it is,she's only got me, and you cant complain about your mother to her face! (well she wouldn't dare) I blame myself of course, who else is there?

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One thing that goes through my head was that whilst I didn't have many friends at home when we went on holiday camping I used to be happy to make friends with people there. Maybe it was because I knew they would only be around for 2 weeks that it made it somehow easier? I don't really know why I was like that.

Maybe starting her off with becoming friendly with people over MSN first where there is less of the pressure of meeting in real life.

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:signwier: congratulations you're now the worlds most embarrasing parent.

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I achieved that position years ago when i sang to her in asda. Thanks for your useful feedback. Maybe in a few years time when you've grown up a bit you'll have something useful to say and wont be so hung up on 'embarrassments'

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so that was you singing when the suicide rate in accy went sky high.

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Yeah, also managed to turn the milk sour.

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you also managed to shatter al the glass in store and stock

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yep! I sure am proud.Thinking of recording my voice and letting them use it at guantanamo as a torture method :eek:

Thread drifting.

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well you tortured accy enough.

forget recording it why don't you just go there.

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Shame it didn't encapsulate you then wasn't it. :rolleyes:

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im immune to suicidal song, that if you call it a song. personally it sounded more like a dog dying in a trumpet

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Nell I think it's great you are worried your daughter may not have enough friends, but I wouldn't force the issue too much. The pen pal idea seems good, so does using the internet, as long as it's a safe site and monitered.

I was forced to join all kinds of things when I was younger, and hated every minute of it. Far from being shy though, I was just biding my time until I found an interesting enough bunch of nutters to play with. As you get older you meet more people who you have things in common with, and I' m sure if she's anything like her Mum she'll have no trouble making good friends when she's ready.

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...too embarrass her kids in the future

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...better than the other way around you young whipper snapper.;)

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i too think its good your worried about your daughter but don't advertise her loneliness

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If you read the first post, she never said her daughter was lonely.

What's the big deal? For all you know your parents may have mentioned on a forum somewhere that you need a playmate.:D

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implying she is lonely

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WANTED.

For Kash. I am very worried about him. He's eighteen, and the only pleasure he gets is being naughty on a local internet forum site. He has friends, but they are always out selling cars so he has too much time on his hands. Any suggestions gratefully received.

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If you think so, and are good at reading between the lines, but it does not say she is lonely, you are wrong.

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lets break down what you said

for me. ok

no need to worry about me.

well thats one thing you right.

if you knew me personelly you'd disagree.

thats another thing right.

actually its their first cars

am a very busy person

no suggestions needed

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So busy you spend all your time on here trying to wind people up?

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im only here between: 1.00-1.30 and 4.30-6.30.

hardly ALL my time. wouldn't you agree?

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Your obviously so interesting it just seems like a heck of a lot longer then........