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Today someone i know came round for a brew/chat.She asked me if i could make her and her daughter (2)something to eat because she had no money for food and nothing at all in the cupboards.fair enough-i dont mind helping people,shes a single mum like me and i know for a fact she doesnt get any maintenance money for her daughter.I was fine with all this until over our meal she started telling me how she had gone out last friday down Accy and saturday round Blackburn-on the lash.
So theres me feeding a little girl cos her mum didnt have a penny-but had enough to go drinking.
Its women like this that give people like me (as a single parent who is not working) a bad name.Im no angel-since i became single i go out as much as i can-IF all my bills are paid and Jack has everything he needs + a bit extra.
I felt like smacking her.
More than once.


Rant over.

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I'd of definatelty smacked her one!!! Definately people like her make my blood boil!!!:angry:

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I think thats soooo wrong. If you have kids single or not you should always make sure they have what they need first. Totally agree misskitty

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that just reminds me of someone I know, they cry poverty all week then by some miracle, they have money to go out!!
they make me sick too!!!!:mad:

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Did you tell her what you thought of her misskitty?

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Shame on the mother for putting partying before her child. I'd hope you have the courage to tell her off.

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I couldn't :o I hint and tut at my mates whose parenting skills (IMO) leave a lot to be desired but i just cant tell them-i just boil inside.I have tried but i sound like im being one of those smug mums everyone hates at mum n toddler groups :(

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Be careful you will be spoiling the perception of single parents :D

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No Miss Kitty you are a first class mum ..... tell them to something off:
and put you and your little one first:

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i wish Dave-the amount of people that think im a Vicky Pollard of the world makes me sick....
I might look like her but i dont act like her-well not all the time LOL

Thanks magpie-believe me im not 1st class,i make mistakes like evry other parent but i try me best for the little get :D plus i would not tell her to something off cos that poor lil girl needing food.

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Well she's just going to keep thinking she can take you for a ride if you don't say anything. Your on here complaining about her and she's probably the one with the smug look on her face because she's just took the proverbial p*** out of you.

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She's a disgrace. If I was feeling particularly annoyed I would contact social services and let them know but I'm too nice.........Are you?

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I dont think it was like that-she doesnt think twice about what she does/asks for.shes no brains to think about the fact shes taking advantage.

Shady-shes been checked by SS twice now.i didnt make the complaints-i have a feeling i know who did though.

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Sure nobody likes smugness, but I often give friends what for because I know I'm right and when it's the truth there's no come backs. Also it's for their own good and I wouldn't be a friend if I let them get away with crap behaviour.

Better than boiling it up. Ignorance ain't always bliss and are you may find yourself in the same situation.

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A third check wouldn't go amiss, surely someone who'll have as much drink as she obviously had without thought for her little one and if it has enough (or anything) to eat is not, in my book, a suitable mother.

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This might read as below the belt.

If she is boozing the weekend away and has no food in for her child then she see's her child as a for of cash cow to fund her weekends. She then hopes that others will help because she went out. I say remove the child to a better set up.

I dont have anything against single parents as on the whole many are good but this is what happens when they think of themselves only.

Kitty I hope you slam the door in her face next time. Though myself I couldnt because I would put the child first regardless of the parents actions.

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Exactly-i dont ever refuse to provide stuff like food (the occasional meal/butty doesnt bother me) but i NEVER baby sit for her or any of my friends who ask if its cos there going out on the beer-unless its a mate who i know doesnt go out much.
One friend as much as i like her (shes lovely as a person but not lovely IMO as a parent) i refuse to babysit EVER cos she asked me to have her 3 week old whilst she went out on the beer with her fella (not her babys dad).
I didnt let anyone have Jack till he was 4 months-even then it was for 2 hours-prob why i ended up having post natal depression though!
After that my friend who took him has not had him since because she fed him tomatoe ketchup (i didnt feed him anything till he was 6 months old).I had no worries about telling her and even now she tells me shes upset she cant look after him like i looked after her daughter but i always say why.
Really im a over-protective mother but its better than neglecting him.

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Its not just single parents this instance happens, one of my x friends were a married couple & they took the preverbial out of me - always on the cadge off me [yet had more income than me!!!] even food & stuff, money paid back if i was lucky late or not bothered, tho emotional blackmail with their kiddies alway got the better of me, till i realised i was doing them no favours anyway, because i'd always bailed them out. Soon realised this game & put an end to it by saying NO, so they had to do without whatever & look to themselves to sort their own budgets out - but alas was the type of people to find someone else to leech off but least it wasn't me from then on!!

Do not be a mug for this type of person!!! The longer u do this the more she will take especially using the kid to do it before u know it ou'll find it hard to say owt or stop - till that last straw creeps up. If she asks again in any way like this then say no, if your concern is the child then it is really upto SS to deal with that im afraid.

I have good friends that i help out no problems & they help me too [2 way street], as it should be:D

Harsh as it sounds but from experience!!

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Not putting the child first should be classed as neglect. I am a soft sod the way Accymel was but sadley I dont think I could turn them away.

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I agree willow but when its every weekend plus sometimes not just alcohol,enough is enough.

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Good point.

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Im lucky to get once a month for accyweb meet but it gives me rest of weeks to look forward to it LOL!! I appreciate it more when it comes:D

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miss kitty your only young i know,but don,t let this person take you for a ride and keep stum, tell her straight! its NOT being nasty or smug, and the end of the day it may just do the child more good if she actually listens. you could always feed the child next time and tell her sorry,i,m a single mum too.drink less and feed yourself i have too.

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Words of wisdom.

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Yes, that's why I said the child must come first, and that I too would be miffed at someone scrounging meals off me and then telling me all about their great night out.

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at least you know your doing a good job with your son,its hard to watch a child grow up with a parent that is more interested in having a good time than feeding their child,you did a good thing by feeding the child because they might not have had anything to eat otherwise,if it happens again i would try and make him/her feel guilty,i know its hard when its a friend but if you dont say something he/she might just keep coming round and asking for food he/she could end up relying on you and others to feed their family,

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Its totally beyond me how anyone can put drink or whatever before feeding their child, I wouldn't have been able to keep my mouth shut about it, I'm boiling over just reading this thread, I'm afraid if it was a regular occurence then I would contact SS, that child deserves better! She's no friend Miss Kitty believe me, a friend wouldn't put you in that position.