What happen to good old manner???
 

At work I see lots pf people. some very kind while others are just plain rude. As children we were told to talk with some respect. i'm not talking about having to saying "please" & "thank you" after every sentence. for example a woman comes in effing and blinding then starts clicking her fingers at me and says 'oi oi', i dont expect her to know my name automaticaly but i do have a name badge. everytime she addressed me she'd say 'oi'.
anyway MOST people i see are good decent people.

Just needed to get that off my chest.

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It costs nobody anything to show good manners,i just think some people have been brought up more ignorant than others.Your tring to provide a service to folk,proberbly working unsociable hours,maybe for a not-so good wages,the least your customers could do is show some respect.Iknow when i do an occasional shopping trip i do try to be at least polite to the person who'es serving/helping me.

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Good manners cost nowt, its a pity you didunt tell her to go forth, or pointed to your rear and said kiss that lady :Banane26:

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Oh that makes my blood boil... We used to go on a lot of cruise ships,,and one time we were put on this table with some toffee nosed couple from London ,he was something to do with the goverment,and he always snapped his fingers at the waiters,They thought they were a cut above everyone else ,but soon realised it diddent wash with the other holiday makers,
Those waiters and all the staff were the nicest people you could wish to meet .I asked our waiter why he just took it so nicely and he told me it was more than his job was worth to say anything back..Even at the black and white ball the woman had to wear blue,,so people took notice of her..

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I always say please and thank you - mum would have cracked me one if i didnt!!! Get on the bus and say accrington please and when im getting off i say thanks. But i do notice that some older than me dont say please and thank you when they are getting on/off the bus. I went down accy last week and there was a bunch of kids getting off before me and every single one of them said thank you. There was an older gentleman getting off after me and he didnt say thanks.

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YOU KNOW I FELT REALY GUILTY YESTERDAY, I WAS FOLLOWING TWO SCAREY, SCRUFFY LOOKING YOUTHS WITH A BIG DOG ,THE DOG DECIDED TO HAVE A POO.I THOUGHT THERES NO DANGER OF THEM CLEANING UP ,,BUT I WAS SO WRONG ,,THEY DID CLEAN UP AND THEY HUNG ON TO IT UNTILL THEY FOUND A BIN ..(:alright: :dogrun: )SHAME ON ME..

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Its unfortunate that today we dont have people who see the importance of manners. Im a youngish guy and see some guys my age not care about anyone or anything and it makes me feel sorry for them as they havent hada good up bringing. While this explains this, it does not excuse it.

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Someone pick me up please this is a shock. Goes to show you cant always judge a book by its cover.

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Manners dont cost anything, I try to say please and thankyou at all times, and as for toffs, why behave like that its pathetic.

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They're asking for bad service by treating you that way. When I'm serving people in my job I'm as polite and friendly to them as they are to me.

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I think I would find it very difficult to be civil if someone spoke to me like that, though are people like that worth getting upset over?

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The last person you want to up set is the bloke/lady that is serving you
I know what i would do in the soup :Banane54:

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I would have said something along those lines but don't wanna lose my job. so I just took it.

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Like others have said, good manners cost nothing, and bad manners are a personal bug bear of mine.

I hate it when people don't say please or thank you. When people don't either write a thank you letter, or at least phone after receiving a gift, also shows the height of bad manners.

Strangely I've found it to be the socially climbing middle classes who appear to be the most ill mannered. Those at the top and bottom of the so called social scale, share amongst other things respect, and good manners. It is those odious people, who think they are proving themselves better than others by being rude, that have the real problem.

If the sad people who think clicking your fingers illicits better service, they are mistaken. They are more than likely to ingest the waiter's saliva with their soup, or indeed have had their soup spoon put somewhere where spoons really shouldn't go.:D

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Is that to the left of the plate then ... :D

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Lol, I was thinking more about in the cat's dinner outside the kitchen door, or worse.:D

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hell yah tellyou wot just read the post good onya i know what ide do with the spoon :Banane20:

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Good manners isn't just about saying 'please' and 'thank you'........it is about treating a person how YOU yourself would want to be treated.

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A bit of a generalisation here, but the rudest people I've ever come across are Jewish New York women.

They take pleasure in being aggressively obnoxious to you.

They want you to lose it, and be as rude back to them, as they are being to you.

The best thing to do is to appear genuinely polite, and not to rise to their bait.

Eventually, after they haven't managed to start a fight, you seem to earn their respect, and they turn into charming pussycats.

Weird, but that's my experience.:)

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it wasn't the lack of "please" & "thank you" that pi**ed (soz mick) me off it was the clicking and her general behaviour

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I can't help feeling this forum may be the last place I would ask what has happend to good manners! ..thank you.

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Most folks who really are a cut above have manners to match. They may know exactly what they want and go to some pretty serious lengths to have things just so, but they manage to do it with manners and style.

If you don't start out by treating folks with respect (remember, you can always change your mind later and snow disrespect to those who deserve it), why should anyone treat you with respect?

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Of course, in New York, when someone says "Oy!" (short for "Oy veh"), we're likely to ask if there is anything we can do for him! It's a corruption of a Yiddish phrase meaning "Woe is me!" It's also related to the German words for "ouch!"

So, when someone says "oi," just aks them is they need medical help!;)

Regarding Kip in "Half a Sixpence," ignorance is just that - ignorance. It does not make you ungentlemanly, but deliberately disrespecting folks for their ignorance certainly does! Ignorance is something that can be easily overcome in many cases. Bad attitudes, one the other hand, are often lifelong.

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Just put something meaty on it and let the dog lick it clean, prior to placing it on the table!:eek: