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Memorial tattooist?
In times gone by, when a person was particularly affected by the death of someone close, the options for expressing grief were fairly limited. The run of the mill expressions were flowers, monuments, or memorial benches. If funds ran to it the bereaved could also endow Universities or religious organisations. The Victorians kept lockets of artfully arranged strands of hair from the dear departed or had mourning jewellery made. but in most cases the grief was something personal and private and most people had sufficient taste not to wear their grief on their sleeves (Queen Victoria notwithstanding) for too long.
In the twenty-first century it seems things have changed, personal grief is now it seems to be used as another springboard for those clamouring to be noticed. This from the Observer... Niece’s tattoo tribute to tragic Dave - News - Accrington Observer Of course what this gormless creature decides to do with her body is entirely up to her, but I cannot help thinking that there is something creepy and icky about it. |
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Horses for courses.
Tattoos fascinate me, though I'd never have one. They're just too permanent...and I'm just too fickle. How on earth having this self penned tribute on her back is going to make her grief any easier, is beyond me, but if it does, good luck to her. It did make me smile when she said just having her late uncle's initals on her neck 'looked a bit bare'. Though as she gets older, she must face the fact that the last verse will eventually slip below the Plimsoll line. |
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I don't like tattoos of any description. And, this girl may have held genuine affection for her uncle, but I am sure he would not have wanted her to deface her body in such a way.......I'm sure there are other things that would have expressed her feelings far better than this.
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Personally I'd have used the money to treat a third world child to have their cataracts removed. The gift of sight, a much more fitting tribute. |
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I wonder what the poem's like. :rolleyes:
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It's hard to come to terms whan you lose somone you love Someone so truly amazing you can never see them enough Although you've gone forever, forever is such a short time Because we will meet again somewhere down the line I'll wait for that moment and thank every passing second Because it means I'll be closer to meeting you in heaven You enjoyed your life to the fullest and passed doing something you love We shall all carry on with our lives knowing your watching over us> |
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Erm......right. The sentiment and the action seem to be a bit excessive for a niece/uncle relationship, or is it just me? |
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I was very close to my father but would never dream of having something dedicated to him tattoed on any part of my anatomy.
I would rather remember him in some other way. |
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It's on her back so she can't read it unless she uses a mirror and then it will be wrong way round - can't understand her reasoning :confused:
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well, i guess is the way she has of grieving, every person is different
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I don't know if this is right for everyone ... people want to remember loved ones in different ways. I lost a very special dog in May of 2004; and I have her protrait tatooed on my arm with the legend "Best Friend" and her name "Hera." I am very comfortable with this. Now she will always be with me in a physical sense, as well as in memory.
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Yes, you are right Bernie, we shouldn't judge.
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It's up to her what she does to her body, but I wonder why she went to the papers?
Without the Observer being informed, nobody would be none the wiser, as to what's on her back. |
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She may live to regret it someday - like on her honeymoon.
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Unless the writing is very small. |
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It's a good job she didn't go for Gray's "Elegy" or it would have reached her ankles. ;)
Sorry, I can't take this seriously. I could, perhaps, understand a picture of the deceased but this is just weird and the poem is ......... no, I'm too polite to say. Yep - I'm judging again! :eek: |
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I think I know where your coming from!!!
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well grief is a terrible thing,and everyone has there own way of dealing with it, some hit the drink big time, affecting others, summat like that tattoo aint my bag,the lass may well regret it in years to come,but its her way of dealing with things, if it aint ours so what?
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As long as she isn't holding me down to tattoo it on my back, I don't give 2 hoots what she does with her own body!
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We all know that grief affects people in different ways and having a tattoo done is her way but why the need to broadcast it??
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If the girl deals with her grief in that manner, it’s her choice. Grief is generally a very private emotion and as pondered by garinda , earlier in this thread, what’s the motive for contacting the Observer ?
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Just a thought.
When you lose someone you love, it's really hard to understand that the world is going on as normal all around you, and after all the fuss and inital sympathy has died down, it seems like everyone but you has forgotten the deceased. Perhaps that's why she decided to share what she's done, by going to the press. |
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Tut TUT :p:D |
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I suppose it could used as a sort of quality control test for prospective husbands to find out how literate they are :rolleyes: ;) ;)
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Yes, it does and there are about 12 verses. ;) |
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she obviously loved him and she wanted a permanent reminder of him.... if it makes her feel better about losing him, who are we to judge... she isnt forcing anyone else to have one or for any one to look at it.... its her choice.
i dont have any tattoos but i have been thinking about it and if i do, it will be my choice! i say good for her, if it helps |
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I don't think people are judging as such Em just wondering why it had to be broadcast. Think most of us see grief as a very personal thing. So yes if a tatto makes you feel better then have one but why the need to put it in the local paper???
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maybe it was her way of making sure he was remembered?
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but we are all speaking about the tattoo, which is about her uncle so we are kind of passing on the memory of her uncle???? if that makes sense lol
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It does make sense but if she hadn't told about it we wouldn't know about it!!
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which is why she did tell us... so we could pass it on.....
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She could have had a permanent memorial to her uncle by putting up a plaque or paying for a memorial bench somewhere. This is all about drawing attention to herself, not him.
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but a public memorial would have been graffiti'd thanx to the very respectful people that like doing these thing for a laugh! that can be just as upsetting as when they die!
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I said permanent, not public. Think about it, in a few years when she walks along with her back exposed (hopefully not in Winter) few people are going to have a clue who the poem is about. They will, however, look at the tattoo, so who's going to be centre stage? Who will be the one being noticed? Not the uncle.
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that is a permanent tribute.... any way people have different views.. can we agree to disagree about this one?
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Of course we can. We all have our own slant on life and it would be a dull old world if we didn't. :)
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There was a young lady from Ossy
Who tatooed a poem on her body This literary lass Had rhymes on her a** And metaphors, none of them shoddy. I don't like the last line ... but it came off the top of my head, like my hair is doing. Someone help me out. |
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