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....what should I do in this situation?

I made a request some time ago for help with a project. Some people kindly helped so I sent them the relevant info. Whilst most of the people have done what they offered to do, one of them hasn't! Neither have they returned the materials so I can't get anyone else to do it.

This person now won't return my emails or messages, neither do they seem to acknowledge that they've still got the stuff.

I don't want to fall out with people but when you offer to do something and haven't done it two months later you should really accept that it's either never going to be done and hand the stuff back or do it pretty sharpish!

I won't name names! What would you do though?

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Phone them, or go round to see them in person, if that's practical.

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Personal visit is best, I have done several things for people on here, and still have a couple to do, as I am a very busy chap they are sometimes forgotten, albeit temporarily, I am my worst enemy in offering help knowing that time will always be an issue, maybe the person was initially too busy, but left it so long that it has become embarrassing.

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depending how much the materials are worth ;)

http://www.bridesmaidgifts.us/brides...maidgifts_.jpg

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discretion is the better part of valour

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screw em ,its bad enough they let you down but to not give you teh materials back is digusting behaviour

name and shame if they continue to hold your items , if a shop treat you badly i assume you would post teh shops name so i dont see a problem with it

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i'm with accyman on this, sod discretion,its pig ignorant not to return yer messages, unless they went away n don't realise which i don't know,but someone will.:(

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It's not me is it? :rolleyes::D

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Well if this person is holding the project up and you seem to have tried your best to sort this out and they are not playing ball, name and shame, after all they voluntered in the first place, if they weren't going t do the work needed why bother in the first place

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Still waiting :rolleyes: lol

I would try contacting them again and even pay them a visit if that doesnt work, there may be a genuine reason for it not being done / lack of contact etc

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No, if it was you you'd know about it!!!!! :D

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Hehe, pm sent, lol

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I cant understand why anyone would offer to do something for you and then avoid you like this, were they aware of exactly what you wanted from them? Are they saying they haven't got the stuff? You've obviously already asked for it back, I would let them know in a calm way how let down you feel and never take them up on any other offers of help.

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I've asked for the stuff back 100 times and they haven't even acknowledged my emails or pms on here. They're just ignoring me.

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As has been said think your only option is to go to their house and hopefully you can get things sorted. Just can't for the life of me understand why anybody would offer to help and then not do it, then again that is me wouldn't offer if I couldn't help:(

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I'm sort of hoping that this thread at least prompts the person to post the stuff back to me, or at least let me know what's going on.

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I hope this thread does prompt the person in question to contact you.

I've had a similar thing happen to me in the past....why oh why do people offer something and then go into hiding, leaving you in the lurch? :confused:

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right the way i see it, if whoever has been online either since you asked fer yer stuff back or since ya posted this thread,to not reply to you is a letdown nothing more, but to not contact you regarding the return of yer stuff is reprehensible, on that basis i reckon any excuse is pure BULL. if it was me i would be very angry at such treatment n therefore name @ shame. :alright:

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I'm giving them a chance!

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was it really 100 times :rolleyes::D

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thats ok but have they been online since?

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Tons of times I'm afraid.

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then i cannot fer the life of me see any excuse fer not responding.

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Is that revalent?....the woman feels agreaved..and stop that bloody in and out..It will give Willow a headache?

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Well ok, it is possible that I may have exaggerated a little there but I've emailed and pm'd on a regular basis for the last two months - at least once week, sometimes more often.

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2 months is plenty of chance i reckon.

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Gayle....we are all making fun of this thread...is it for real or a wind up?

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I don't think anyone's making fun of it are they?

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Then spill....who is giving you a hard time?

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Isn't me - I never volunteer for anything :D

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I'm certainly not!!!

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i certainly am not, i'm annoyed n its ****** all to do with me, just hate owt like that.

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Cos I'm nosy I had a peek at your past posting (I bet I wasn't the only one?) The list of possibles isn't that big so if you're reading this talk to Gayle or you could be outed.

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Its not me.... but if its anything i can help with let me know......far too much free time :(

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I am waiting for Felix to appear with some smart arsed comment telling us that this is a wind up......prove me wrong?

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Sorry, that comment went completely over my head - who's Felix?

Anyway crisis averted, thread worked, contact has been made.

Perhaps one of the mods could close the thread now.

Thanks

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thats good news gayle at least.;)

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Yayyyyy the powers of accyweb...

Glad its all sorted now Gayle and hope it was just an innocent overlook.

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reckon so.........:)

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After this result maybe we can persuade Gordon Brown to join then we can bend his ear too:D