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Explaining bereavement to kids
As the thread title says, have had to do the deed today, some on here know Yvonne, and sadly her father passed away yesterday after a very short battle with cancer (he was diagnosed on new years eve), so, I explained to the children that grandad wasnt living at grandmas any more as he is in heaven with god (wouldnt know any other way that a child would understand), so, how do you explain this, if you ever have.
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I wouldnt know how to explain it to them so cannot offer any advice there sorry, but my thoughts are with you all and if theres anything anyone needs just give me a shout x
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Sorry for your loss. We had to tell my Niece pretty much the same thing, that her nan was in the sky with the angels.
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have you spoken to their teachers at school? they have books and information and experience that can be helpful
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It's difficult.
I was seven the first time someone I loved died. My mum called me and my younger brother to her bed one Saturday morning, and explained that our beloved great aunt had died. We cried our hearts out. Children are tougher than you think though, and like anyone who has been bereaved, you slowly come to some sort of acceptance about one of life's inevitabilities. As an atheist I tried to explain to a child, who had lost someone they adored, that life ends, but the love that existed carries on, in the form of happy memories, and those can last forever. |
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Sincere condolences on your sad loss.
It is a very hard job to explain to children....and every child will be different in their needs. I think that you just have to be there for them and answer their questions honestly. I'm sure that the Cancer care organisations have some books to help, but you know your children best and are therefore best placed to know what is best for them |
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sorry to hear mate, its all you can do, plus let em know how much grandad loved em, n be there fer yvonne.
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I would heartily endorse what Garinda says about chidren being tougher than we think.......they are also far more resilient than we give them credit for too.
I suppose you could tell them that the love they had for that special person goes on.....and that while they remember their Grandad with love, he is alive in their hearts and memories. |
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I should have said that I was sorry too.
Sorry for the loss of Yvonne's father. |
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Sorry for the loss......... we told our 3year old (5 now) when her 2 great grandads, great grandma and 2 cats passed away within` a short space of time that they all go up to the moon , still love them very much and will still keep an eye on them from above so now every time she sees the moon she says `look..! grandad such and such etc is looking at us and still loves us very much`............she also tells her little sister ( 18 months ) all about them, its something i can imagine her remembering forever.......
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After the shock of any death, be it a quick, or drawn out by sickness, we do eventually block out the sadness, and tend to remember only the good things about the people we've loved and lost. |
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Thank you all, I did of course explain that the memories and the love will always be there, and the kids go to a catholic school, so they have a reasonable understanding I think, they all said they would pray for him, even though it is not my belief, I am happy that they have a way to express themselves, it is thier own decision what to make of religion, and I will not influence them in any way, for the time being, the belief serves a useful purpose.
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when my dad died it wasnt a problem telling my youngest who was 3 but telling my oldest that her grandad who she loved to bits had died was tricky but i went to school and told her teacher and they kept a close eye on her for me which was really good.
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I've had to explain death quite a lot recently to my two and stuck to the plain and simple approach.
I told them that people never ever die in your heart and just because you can't see someone regularly doesn't mean that you stop thinking about them and loving them. |
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So sorry to hear of your bereavment. As has been mentioned the schools are very good at times like this. My grandchildren were encouraged to keep a diary of how they were feeling after Ian died. They are very resilient, in fact just yesterday my four year old grandson started a conversation about Grandad Ian.
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It is nice that they remember Bernie, as said before, kids are good at dealing with these issues than we think, and as the hurt subsides, only the good memories are left!
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[quote=Gayle;676224]I've had to explain death quite a lot recently to my two and stuck to the plain and simple approach.
quote] My Grandad and Uncle both passed away with 8 days of each other. Madz took it quite badly cos she really loved her Great Grandad but Zack seemed less bothered by it. Not the he didnt love his grandad but just because I dont think he quite grasps the fact that he'll never see him again. |
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Sorry about your loss .. x |
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When my dad died which was a long time ago - its 23 years next week we said theres another star in the sky tonight and thats grandad looking down and watching over you while you sleep ... so when you go to bed dont forget to say night night.
sorry for your loss .. |
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sorry to hear about your loss Derek
my nieces know that their grandma (my mum) died a long time ago and i say to them 'Grandma is up in the sky, playing with the angels' |
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People have some good ideas on this, and they always seem to be pointing in the direction of going skywards.. heaven, angels, stars etc.
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Could get more imaginative of course, and do a journey to the centre of the Earth with warmth, keeping the world on track around the sun, pushing up the flowers for us to enjoy, etc., possiblities are endless, however, association is usually with Hades. |
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When my brother in law died....all the grandchildren wrote messages to him and attached them to helium balloons and they were released at the moment his casket was being lowered into the ground.....I thought that was a lovely touch.
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Katex, it was quite a few years ago now.......maybe 12 years ago....so there wasn't the same hoo ha then about environmental issues.......there are other ways to do something similar without it causing too much environmetal havoc......it just seemed very thoughtful at the time.......and it took the childrens thoughts away from the fact that their Grandpa was being put into the ground.
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Thought long and hard on this and think Gayles answer is the easiest way to do it.
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