Public Apology
 

A Very Public Apology

Some days ago, I posted some photographs from my childhood. My aim in doing so was to share my memories of Church Kirk and to jog the memories of others, both to aid those that may recognise the people or scenes depicted within them and to open a forum for others to share theirs.

Unfortunately, my sister has objected to the publication of two of those images. I have sought the assistance of others in order to remove those images from the. I will also edit all of the Threads that I have posted to ensure that no further offence is caused.

I would like to take this opportunity to apologise to My Sister who wishes not to have her name plastered over the web for publishing them and causing her distress.

Furthermore, I apologise to all members of this site for any inconvenience or distress that may have been caused through any apparent animosity displayed in relation to any discussions between my sister and myself on this site.

I must clarify a statement that I have no editorial control over. I originally joined Accrington web to find members of my extended family and my father Alan Douglas. I recently received a copy of a year old e-mail written by an individual who may have known my father. This e-mail stated that my father might have passed away some six years ago.

Although I generally accept that this may be the case, I choose to seek clarification of the fact from the only people who can give me appropriate facts, and that is my extended family. My father remarried and has had a new family to whom I know he was/is very proud of. I am aware that they may be viewers of this site and I apologise deeply for any distress that may have been caused to them.

To the Moderators…I offer you my withdrawal from the site, if you believe it to be appropriate and that such a withdrawal would be beneficial to the good name of this site and its membership.

Malcolm Alan Douglas
19th June 2004

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:engsmil: :s_fmad: :s_fmad: :engsmil: :engsmil: :engsmil:

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Anyone remember that TV series "Dallas"...it was all about a good old family feud...this is better!

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lol tealeaf I think i luffs you :iloveyou:

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I'm glad someone does!............

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Funny thing...

I have always loved animals and horses in particular. For those horse lovers on the site. I use to come over in the late seventies to spend time with my father. Invariably my visits would end with a visit up to gallows hall farm to see family friends who held the property at that time and had two or three Cobs. Cathy (now in Canada – a fantastic lass. I still miss her). Memories eh…

I am still involved with animals. I spend my holidays looking after a 130 acre farm up in Garstang caring for 30 Welsh Cobs, 80 sheep mostly B***** Suffolk’s, two dogs, 7 hens and two mental geese. The farm belongs to Joyce's (my partner) brother.

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Geese are very good for Christmas

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Tealeaf...

Your a very naughty boy...you shouldn’t encourage her. KIPAX would't be happy if you feud about with someone else...

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Doug, if I'm not feuding with at least 6 on here I'm not a happy bunny...bring 'em on - the more, the merrier!

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Doug I dont see any need for you to leave this Site... You have done nothing we all would not of done..
Unfortunately life is sometimes more complicated than we can foresee :(

Tealeaf dallas was enjoyable because it was not real just fantasy, this is real and therefore I for one don't find it enjoyable, in fact to see something so personal played out in public is quite sad :(

I enjoy seeing Van Damme fight on tele but if It was happening in front of me for real I would be very upset...

Life is much to short for this

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Now then, Doug & Jess.......look what you've gone and done...got me into real serious trouble with Simon....now he thinks I'm a bloke called Van Dam (the mussles from brussels) and we're going to have a fight in a pub...oh dear..

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If things are a bit confused, it's because I've had a coupleof pints

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Thank you for your comments Simon,

Don't be too hard on the old chap. I am sure he is just trying to lighten the load for us all.

I would only leave the site at the request of the moderators and or, of my own accord to prevent any further animosity developing in the public arena that might upset or cause distress to those that have welcomed me and assisted me behind the scenes.

Me and the other person concerned have never seen eye to eye since the early days back in accy.

Thanks...

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Tell you what Tealeaf,

I'll buy you a pint when I get over...No arm done.

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Doug - It will be good to meet you...and I know sentiment is shared by everyone else who is a regular on here. If you do come over from Bispham tomorrow...could I suggest you take the train? There will invariably be a few jars knocked back and the journey from Blackpool to Accy is pretty quick these days

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Thank you Tealeaf,

Your a gentleman…

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You know life is a bitch but has it happens we are all here together (at this time) through no choice of our own. No point in blaming each other for what others have done? Life is short, one day every one will regret the things that they have said and done, accept what is, because one day you’ll all need each other.

P.S
I have had a few beers and in the morning I shall edit or delete my post.
I have probably miss read this thread but if I haven’t then it stands.
Regards, Len

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Thanks Len,

Your a gentleman too...No need to edit or delete out.

One can only hope that the views of others stand to help smooth the path for those less fortunate than ourselves.

I don’t know where the b****** H*** that came from, but I suppose it is Sunday after all.

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I hope this matter ends this day. I have better things to do, like recover from the ale that I supped in self-punishment of my sins…

I did this freely, protesting my innocence to my chosen gods.

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This type of problem is always present when dealing with individuals still alive.

It can arise when seeking out mates, or schoolfriends, or for family historians and genealogists, looking to expand the picture by seeking descendants, or friends, with a living memory of individuals in their family tree.

So it's a superb illustration to others, of a problem that can arise out of the blue.
It's also a perfect solution to this problem. A no quibbles removal of any offending material, and a sincere apology.

Doug should be congratulated on his post, that shows both the problem and the solution. It should help others who could find themselves in a similar position in the future. He should not treat himself too harshly.

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To support those publishing family trees to the web, consider the following :-

The software you use should provide you with a facility to privatise and remove sensitive information for individuals from 1904 to present (based on current year and the 100 year rule) just before transfer to the web. It's safer that way, but you get to keep the information for your own record.

Although it can be a technical subject, if you have your own webspace, and upload webpages with sensitive information, find out about .HTACCESS and .HTPASSWD files, that enable you to establish an area that is username and password protected.
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Finally, hats off to Doug for the way he dealt with the problem.

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hi doug i for one hope you do carry on posting , we have enjoyed your thoughts & memories too wich we all have & especially those of us who lived in church, keep posting doug, there are other posts to get interested in & pehaps winde that gentleman tealeaf up in (it dont take much) ha ha ha, hope to see you soon on here.

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Doug wrote:
Cheers to you too ****hole .

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I don't think theres any need for that Kipax!!!
Infact i think its well out of order!, the guy was not being offensive to you whatsoever, he was simply making a humerous remark! You yourself stated the other day that you were happy to have debates with Tealeaf, and had no problem with it! So whats your problem with doug's remark??????

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It is ok Wingy,

I don't think Kipax is to out of order if he feels offended. I have apologised for much less lately

KIPAX - See your PM Box. Thanks

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I am more than happy to have a debate with tealeaf... after all thats what he is there for isnt it :) tealeaf is a big lad.. he knows how to play the game and enjoys it..why are you even mentioning that..

Why do you think I have a problem with dougs remark. ??? I havent.. cant think why your thinking I have.. doug is entitled to remark and say whatever he wants just like we all are...

However I think his remark was uncalled for and so I responded.. you say it was humurous... you wasnt on the end of it was you? so it may be humurous to you and him and others.... personally i dont like being on the end of it.. I dont have a problem with him making the remark though

You have me confused now mate.... surely if he is allowed a dig at me then I am allowed one back.... ?


its not real life tha knows.. its just a messageboard :)

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Sorry replied before seeing your post doug... havent even read your pm yet :)

just amazed that wingy wants to jump on my back all of a sudden ?

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Who jumped on your back Kipax??
You say its not real life but your the one that got your back up and called doug an ****hole not me!!!!!

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Everybody.

Pick Teddy up, put him back in the cot, grow up, and get some sleep!

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Wingy... i didnt get my back up.. what the hell is wrong with you tonight.. why do you keep insisting on telling me how i am feeling ?? thats two posts now you have done that.. I didnt get my back up, i havent a problem with doug and I like arguing with tealeaf.

doug and I have sorted this out like adults.. I suggest you take sparkologists advice and get some sleep mate.. your getting upset over nowt

We can all blame tealeaf in the morning :)

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i haven't got upset over anything Kipax, i certainly haven't told you how you are feeling, and there is no problem with me tonight whatsoever.
Why is it that i make a couple of posts, and suddenly theres something wrong with me??

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No worries Kipax. I respect your rights and I accept that I was wrong to drag you in to this situation.

Again, I am sorry for any offence that I have caused you.

Doug.

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Wingy thanks for your support, but I accept that the Kipax has the right not to be dragged in to my problems.

It was off the cuff, but I should have considered his feeling, and anyone else’s who was not part of the original thread…although some will be happy with this outcome.

I am also gutted that you yourself have ended up being shot at for trying to help…Sorry lad…but hey…thanks.

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and I apologise for calling you names in response to dragging me into it :)


Now all we have to do is sit wingy in a corner until he sobers up then we can carry on with life :) .........JOKE! :)

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doug dont worry about wingy.. we are mates and niether of us will take offence at anything written in here :)

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Sober up???
I'm sat here with a bottle of volvic.. i'm sure i won't get drunk on that..

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Saying that i wish i could>> i would have some cheap nights:-)

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Whys doug calling you lass ?

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Kipax why is it you seem to be challenging everyone these days??????

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Good piont Kipax
I'M A BLOKE :-)

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And the reason for this comment is precisely what???

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Shh wingy... you could have got away with allsorts :)

Pussycat.. your post is absoloutly drowning in irony...

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sparkologist.. eeerm because wingy is a bloke.... dont tell me your upset as well now hehehehe

its started wingy.... bhaaaaaaaa

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kipax what you mean by that???????

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eeeerm by what?

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Oh B*******,

Sorry Wingy. I was trying to watch something on the box has I was writing, Honest.
What a B***** night.

Pints all round I think….

Cheers Mate.

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we believe ya.. thousands wouldnt :)

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Hi pussycat,

I’m assuming you’re not a bloke having seen your picture, I think it’s better to pass this one by...

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Just had an enjoyable few minutes laughing at everyone having a go at each other! Doug - your original apology was obviously serious and well put - hope you don't leave the site. Everyone else should chill out!