Dorothy Duxbury B.E.M.
 

I have said in the past that Accyweb feels like my family....so it is with great sadness that I have to tell you that Dorothy(my Mum) an amazing and well loved lady died on The 5th of February.

Mum was Caretaker of Woodnook St Mary's in Belfield Road, so many of those who went to that school will know her.
I know that many of you who read my blogs will have read of our adventures and escapades...so may feel some connection

Mum specified before she died that there was to be no obituary in the local press...she promised she would haunt me if I did not follow her wishes.
I am hoping that Accyweb does not count.

Mum was a feisty, independent lady of indomitable spirit.
I have done my best to keep her going for as long as possible, but life had just become so wearisome, she was so tired and there was little in life that gave her joy in those last couple of weeks.
So she put her earthly burden down and left us.
Even in death she thought of others....she left her earthly overcoat to be unpicked by medical students...her lining to be investigated so that others may learn.

It made me smile(just a little) to find out last Thursday that Mum, at the age of 90 had got a place at Liverpool University in the medical faculty.

Mum,you were bloody amazing...and if I can be one tenth as good as you have been I will be happy.
Night night, God Bless.

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Ah, bless you Margaret - lovely words for someone who sounds like an amazing lady. So sorry for your loss, take care x

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Thank you Accymad...she was a one off.

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May I offer my sincere condolences, Margaret. x x

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My sincere condolences to you and your Family.

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So,so, sorry to read this, Margaret, & what a lovely tribute to your beloved mum.

I hope you find comfort in knowing that, after death, she is still helping others.

Gerardxx

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I am so sorry to hear about your amazing mum. It is wonderful that you had her for so many years and I know you will feel lost without her. She sounds like a real inspiration and so selfless leaving her remains to science. You must take great pride in knowing she is helping others even now. I send my deepest condolences to you and your family. x

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This was a wonderful and straight from the heart tribute...take care...Bea x

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I've never met Margaret Pilky or her mum, but I suspect that M.P is a pea out of the same pod as D.D.

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Believe me Bob, both were stars, yer not off the mark wi that comment, R.I.P.Margarets treasured mum.

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Condolences for your loss Margaret.

What was the B.E.M. awarded for if you dont mind me asking?

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My sincere condolences Margaret its a lot to take when you lose your Mum + your best friend at the same time.

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Thank you all for your kind words...they mean so much to me.

Steve, B.E.M is the British Empire Medal...and it was presented to her in 1992 for services to education....unfortunately it was the same year she lost my Dad....he knew she had been awarded it, but did not live to see her presented with it.

I miss her like crazy.

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So sorry to hear about your mum Margaret, she sounds like a very special person, my thoughts are with you.

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I knew it was the British Empire Medal Margaret,but it could have been Best Ever Mum.

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Margaret, I'm so glad you decided to put your loss on a thread. Not everyone reads the blogs and I'm sure a lot on Accyweb will want to share their thoughts on your loss.
It must have left a big hole in your life, you were so close to your mother.
My thoughts are with you.

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She was indeed that.
I have almost picked the phone up to remind her of TV programs that I know she would enjoy at least three times in the past week...And I cannot bear to delete her number from my phone.

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Yes, I can feel the draught already.
I would encourage everyone to read my blogs....it would put a smile on their chops...well, most of them would.

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I just read an interesting quote "Its not what you have in your life, its who you have in your life that matters" I reckon that very much applied to you Margaret.

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I don't know where she is.
I know not where she's gone.
I only hope where e're it is, there's
Sea and sand and sun.
I hope there are flowers that bloom,
And birds that sing in trees,
I hope there is soft music,
Drifting on the breeze.
I only know she is not lost,
In fact I think she's found...
And I must not shed salty tears
Because she's not around.

She sits in the departure lounge,
Her boarding pass in hand.
Flying Celestial Airways
Out to the Promised land.
Those she love are waiting,
All gathered in a crowd.
They cannot wait to greet her
They're happy and they are proud
The arrivals door will open
They'll shout, they'll clap and cheer.
They will fling their arms around her....
Saying 'Dorothy is here!'

These are two verses that I composed to send to family members to comfort them.

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I think that quote is absolutely spot on...and yes, my riches are not stored in the bank, but in my heart.

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Sorry for your loss, Margaret. Your mum will be missed but never forgotten.

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Thank you both of you.
She was a very special person who touched many lives.

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What a wonderful tribute to your mother, Margaret. Take comfort from the messages sent to you by the Accrington Web family at this very sad time, knowing that they really do care.

Take comfort also in the knowledge that you did all you could for your mother, you took such good care of her and gave her so much of your time. Now take some time for yourself. My thoughts are with you.

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Thank you Dorothy for your words of encouragement.
There is still much to do...and there will come a time when all that is ravelled is knitted up...and I will have time on my hands...the time I spent doing things for Ma.
At present, I am grateful for the distractions that doing things to tie up MA's affairs takes up.
I will take time when it is all done and dusted.
M x

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Margaret your poems are beautiful. I am sure they have been a comfort to your family.
When my dad passed away a Commodore in the Royal Navy sent me the following poem which gave me comfort. Mt dad had been in the navy.
What is dying?
A ship sail and I stand watching till she fades on the horizon
and someone by my side says 'She is gone'. Gone where ?
Gone from my sight that is all. She is just as large as when I saw her.
The dimimished size and total loss of sight is in me not in her
And just at that moment when someone says 'She is gone.'
There are others who are watching her coming and other voices
take up the glad shout 'There she comes'
And that is dying.

Not as personal as your verses but the same sentiment.

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So sorry to hear of your loss, Margaret. Many condolences to you and your family.

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Rowlf...yes...I have seen that poem too. it was written by a Bishop(whose name escapes me just now) and it is a paraphrase of that.
It was what Ma believed would happen.

Thank you Steve...I thought Ma was invincible.
When she was lying at the bottom of the stairs with a fracture hip...she kept telling the ambulance lads that 'There's nowt wrong wi' me...it's not broken'....and initially refusing pain relief...well, until we tried to move her that is.
My life is going to be poorer for her not being there...but she left me a rich legacy...not in money, but in memories and experiences.

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Sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing a little of your mum with us through your blogs.

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Hi Margaret
I've just seen your post regarding your Mum and I'm so sorry to hear the news. I knew your Mum through work as I worked (and still do) for LCC and Dorothy regularly popped into Ewbank House to drop off her timesheets etc. I was new to my job and your Mum was a real down to earth person who called a spade a spade but was really genuine. she always enjoyed banter and certainly didn't suffer fools but I got on really well with her, She was a real character and it was a pleasure to listen to her stories and her rants normally about people who were too far up their own backsides
RIP Dorothy

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Thank you Parkrunner.
I am so pleased that you posted this and that your memories of her are so positive.
She was a very special lady to me...the queen of my life...my mum