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kittylin 21-07-2011 03:25
Bridesmaid failing
 
HELP!

I need anyones help...i have the worst bridesmaids. One is my sister and the other my sister in -law to be and so far they both have to be the most hopeless bridesmaids in history. Neither of them help and are taking my wedding seriously which now means i am left to do all the planning on my own.
I am fed up and not sure on how to go about changing the situation.

Any advice is appreciated.

MargaretR 21-07-2011 06:53
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Bridesmaids shouldn't be expected to help- they never were.
If you can't manage to organise a wedding yourself, you aren't ready to be a wife.

Margaret Pilkington 21-07-2011 07:26
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The other thing you have to bear in mind is :- if you consider them to be such useless bridesmaids, why would you want them to help organise anything........you wouldn't trust them, and if you did and things went wrong, your big day would end in tears.

Organising a wedding isn't that difficult.
Make yourself a list. Work through it systematically. And remember the saying....If you want something doing well....you'd best do it yourself.
Good Luck.

Neil 21-07-2011 07:28
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Quote:
Originally Posted by MargaretR (Post 920405)
Bridesmaids shouldn't be expected to help- they never were.
If you can't manage to organise a wedding yourself, you aren't ready to be a wife.


Thats your opinion but I am sure lots of bridesmaids do help out

emamum 21-07-2011 07:40
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my bridesmaids were 2,11 and 18, the 18 year olds at uni so she was busy, she was good for taking shopping tho lol

my mum and mother in law were more help (trying to take over) are yours able to help?

cashman 21-07-2011 07:48
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my advice is grow up,it aint their job,

jaysay 21-07-2011 08:39
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Me thinks your not ready for the big wide world that marriage will bring

steve2qec 21-07-2011 08:56
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If you need a couple of replacement bridesmaids I volunteer Jaysay & Cashman!!!

david1 21-07-2011 09:03
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Don't get married , Problem solved .

Margaret Pilkington 21-07-2011 09:34
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Neil (Post 920407)
Thats your opinion but I am sure lots of bridesmaids do help out
Some bridesmaids might help out because they want to....and also they might just know what they are doing......but it isn't in the remit of a bridesmaid to be required to help out with the organisation of the wedding.

A bridesmaid may have duties on the actual day....helping the bride to get into her gown, looking after younger bridesmaids, looking after the flowers.....but the actual organisation........No. It is usual for the bride and her mother who do this part of the organisation.

I like David's suggestion.

cashman 21-07-2011 10:06
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this persons profile says "Male" methinks its either a wind up,or a pre-curser to a spammer.:rolleyes: note time it was posted.

jaysay 21-07-2011 10:10
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Quote:
Originally Posted by cashman (Post 920452)
this persons profile says "Male" methinks its either a wind up,or a pre-curser to a spammer.:rolleyes: note time it was posted.
They've to get up early in the morning to pull the wool over your eyes cashy, you could be right could be a precursor for a spammer, just tempting the water:rolleyes:

Neil 21-07-2011 11:21
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If your bridesmaids are your close friends I would expect them to want to help and for the bride to want them to help. If bridesmaids are just family members you feel you should ask to be bridesmaids then the bride probably wont want their help anyway.

cashman 21-07-2011 11:24
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I don't believe a word of it.:rolleyes:

Margaret Pilkington 21-07-2011 11:26
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Quote:
Originally Posted by cashman (Post 920452)
this persons profile says "Male" methinks its either a wind up,or a pre-curser to a spammer.:rolleyes: note time it was posted.
When you set up an account, isn't Male the default profile?
It may just be that she hasn't changed the default.......I don't get why a spammer would go to the trouble of a fictitious story.....surely they would not waste any time, and just hit with the spam.

MargaretR 21-07-2011 11:30
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....and not likely to wait two weeks after joining before posting.

cashman 21-07-2011 11:32
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I did say its either a wind up "Or":rolleyes: whatever its complete crap imho.:rolleyes:

Neil 21-07-2011 12:06
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The post was ok, just not the poster. I don't always have time straight away to check new ones out and will leave it until I am on a PC not my phone because its easier. The same poster posted the same question using the same name in several forums. There location was iffy as well so she/he/it is now banned.

No reason to not discuss the subject though :D

If people think its better to just delete it I will do.

Margaret Pilkington 21-07-2011 12:23
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Neil....can I ask(purely out of curiousity) .....What exactly constitutes and iffy location?.......if answering compromises you in any way I will understand that you cannot give me a definitive answer.

Neil 21-07-2011 12:39
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington (Post 920480)
Neil....can I ask(purely out of curiousity) .....What exactly constitutes and iffy location?.......if answering compromises you in any way I will understand that you cannot give me a definitive answer.
When we were getting a lot of spam it was mainly from Russia, India, China and a few other places. You have to use a bit of judgement at times and guess at others. A first post introduction really does help us to know people are genuine. Yes we have a lot of members living abroad but when you search

Quote:
I need anyones help...i have the worst bridesmaids. One is my sister and the other my sister
You get a couple of hits on other websites for the exact same post. Looking on one of them I found post from the user with links to a website selling dresses, this site was registered in China with prices in Euros. All a bit iffy :rolleyes:

I could be wrong and often am but I don't think so this time.

cashman 21-07-2011 13:32
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Quote:
Originally Posted by MargaretR (Post 920471)
....and not likely to wait two weeks after joining before posting.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Neil (Post 920485)
When we were getting a lot of spam it was mainly from Russia, India, China and a few other places. You have to use a bit of judgement at times and guess at others. A first post introduction really does help us to know people are genuine. Yes we have a lot of members living abroad but when you search



You get a couple of hits on other websites for the exact same post. Looking on one of them I found post from the user with links to a website selling dresses, this site was registered in China with prices in Euros. All a bit iffy :rolleyes:

I could be wrong and often am but I don't think so this time.
i think yer spot on. ;) :tongueout

Margaret Pilkington 21-07-2011 14:07
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Thanks Neil........good answer.

Neil 21-07-2011 16:12
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington (Post 920490)
Thanks Neil........good answer.
You just thought I messed about being sarcastic on here and didn't do a real job :D

lancsdave 21-07-2011 17:16
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington (Post 920480)
Neil....can I ask(purely out of curiousity) .....What exactly constitutes and iffy location

Oswaldtwistle, thats why he knows about it :D

Margaret Pilkington 21-07-2011 17:47
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Neil (Post 920515)
You just thought I messed about being sarcastic on here and didn't do a real job :D
Now Neil.......how have I given you that impression? :)

DaveinGermany 21-07-2011 18:36
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Just to get back to the question, I suggest you get two of the fattest ugliest girls you're likely to find & give them the job of Bridesmaids. They'll be falling all over themselves to help, let's face it, it's probably the closest they'll ever get to being wed. :D

Yes I know, cruel & unfair. But I bet there's a few of you out there grinning right now after your initial "OMG I can't believe he said that !" Hey as far as I'm concerned PC is a computer. ;)

Neil 21-07-2011 19:06
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Quote:
Originally Posted by DaveinGermany (Post 920541)
Just to get back to the question, I suggest you get two of the fattest ugliest girls you're likely to find & give them the job of Bridesmaids. They'll be falling all over themselves to help, let's face it, it's probably the closest they'll ever get to being wed. :D

Yes I know, cruel & unfair. But I bet there's a few of you out there grinning right now after your initial "OMG I can't believe he said that !" Hey as far as I'm concerned PC is a computer. ;)
I thought you were trying to make sure the bride was the best looking one in the pictures :D

steve2qec 21-07-2011 19:10
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Dave, if I were best man or an usher at that wedding I'd be rather peed off if the bridesmaids were fat & ugly. Plus, you'll want girls that look good on the photo's.

david1 21-07-2011 19:13
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The Bridesmaids dresses would cost more than the Brides lol

Retlaw 21-07-2011 19:23
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Quote:
Originally Posted by david1 (Post 920546)
The Bridesmaids dresses would cost more than the Brides lol
Not if your like a bloke who came on noel edmonds show once, he could make frocks out of black binbags.
Retlaw.

steve2qec 21-07-2011 19:27
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...and the bride could wear hesian!

cashman 21-07-2011 20:24
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Quote:
Originally Posted by DaveinGermany (Post 920541)
Just to get back to the question, I suggest you get two of the fattest ugliest girls you're likely to find & give them the job of Bridesmaids. They'll be falling all over themselves to help, let's face it, it's probably the closest they'll ever get to being wed. :D

Yes I know, cruel & unfair. But I bet there's a few of you out there grinning right now after your initial "OMG I can't believe he said that !" Hey as far as I'm concerned PC is a computer. ;)
Ahh but those are ever so grateful.:D:D

jaysay 22-07-2011 08:59
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Quote:
Originally Posted by steve2qec (Post 920554)
...and the bride could wear hesian!
and flat toed shoes steve:rolleyes:

DaveinGermany 22-07-2011 15:37
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Neil (Post 920544)
I thought you were trying to make sure the bride was the best looking one in the pictures :D
Good point well made, so there's a bonus too for the Bride (aren't we good to her ?) :D

Quote:
Originally Posted by steve2qec (Post 920545)
Dave, if I were best man or an usher at that wedding I'd be rather peed off if the bridesmaids were fat & ugly. Plus, you'll want girls that look good on the photo's.
Beer my friend, lots & lots of it ! (simple solutions are the best) :D :D

Quote:
Originally Posted by cashman (Post 920559)
Ahh but those are ever so grateful.:D:D
Granted Cashy, bit like the last chance grab on a Saturday night. (Dark & desperate days, but still answer 2 sorted that problem) :D :D :D

Studio25 22-07-2011 15:44
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Quote:
Originally Posted by david1 (Post 920546)
The Bridesmaids dresses would cost more than the Brides lol
Depends where you buy your brides.

jaysay 22-07-2011 17:53
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Studio25 (Post 920633)
Depends where you buy your brides.
Is that the garment or the person Studio:D

emamum 22-07-2011 21:32
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graces dress cost 5x more than mine :)

Studio25 23-07-2011 15:52
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Quote:
Originally Posted by jaysay (Post 920650)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Studio25 (Post 920633)
Quote:
Originally Posted by david1 (Post 920546)
The Bridesmaids dresses would cost more than the Brides lol
Depends where you buy your brides.
Is that the garment or the person Studio:D
Well without the apostrophe, the person.

DaveinGermany 23-07-2011 19:39
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Quote:
Originally Posted by DaveinGermany (Post 920541)
Yes I know, cruel & unfair. But I bet there's a few of you out there grinning right now after your initial "OMG I can't believe he said that !" Hey as far as I'm concerned PC is a computer. ;)
To show a little balance it works both ways. :D

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jaysay 24-07-2011 09:39
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Studio25 (Post 920816)
Well without the apostrophe, the person.
You trying to baffle me with science Studio:D

annesingleton 30-07-2011 18:10
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I completely agree with David1, don't get married and spend the money on you and your partner having a fantastic time together.

jaysay 31-07-2011 09:48
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Anybody noticed the thread starter hasn't been back to get advice:rolleyes::rolleyes:

cashman 31-07-2011 10:52
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Quote:
Originally Posted by jaysay (Post 922542)
Anybody noticed the thread starter hasn't been back to get advice:rolleyes::rolleyes:
you aint noticed the thread starter is banned.:rolleyes::D

jaysay 31-07-2011 11:00
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Quote:
Originally Posted by cashman (Post 922553)
you aint noticed the thread starter is banned.:rolleyes::D
Na bit slow this morning cashy:o


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