Nothing 'Rubbish' about it. You make your choices, and hope they are the right ones.
I have a sneaking suspicion that you are a lot younger than Cashy.
I think child rearing was seen to be the mothers job in our era(nothing metrosexual about the chaps then).......I am of a similar age to Cashy......well my body is....I am only 14 in my head
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