[Margaret Pilkington]

I think it helps to observe the forum for a little while before jumping in.
Learn who the grumpy burgers are.(life is full of them - it is just how they are)
Read some of the old threads, find out how the search facility works...and ask an established member for advice...or the mods for that matter. It isn't always about being 'au fait' with web forums either...it is a combination of things.

And if all that fails and someone thinks they have been treated badly, then the moderators are always there to smooth the path...but, and this is a big but..it isn't baby school.

The internet is not a great media to nuances across and sometimes people take the huff over very little.