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Old 22-11-2012, 02:50   #53
Sunflower49
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Re: What you didn't know about Father Christmas.

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Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington View Post
Well, the tat....has been bought with love and thoughts of you(even if it doesn't meet with your taste)......and it beats getting nothing.
You can always donate stuff you consider 'tat' to the charity shops.
I can't say that I give gifts 'just for the sake of it'....I usually shop for people who are important in my life...and I buy what I think they might like and enjoy....I always tell them that if they do not like what I have chosen they are free to give the gift on.....donate it...whatever pleases them.
I have in the past made gifts. Home made fudge, florentines, Christmas cakes, peanut or almond brittle. Peppermint creams and that sort of thing.
It is just to show that they are thought of...with love.
I think I'm pretty much the same. I TRY to put a lot of thought (not necessarily a lot of MONEY!) into gifts. For my family I do really think about what they will like-prompted by their guidance. My family are so weird though. I always call my sister and ask what to get for her, my bro-in-law, and my niece and nephew and she's very good, tends to not tell me exactly what they all want, more so what they all favour at the moment and I usually get it right and they're grateful.
My father HATES!That I do this-he says it's very rude to ask people what they want. However, he quite often buys gifts for me that are totally unsuitable, which I always accept with a lot of grace and 'Thank Yous' because I am grateful for the gesture. E.g he knows I don't eat animal products, he knows that well as he jibes at me for it-yet he buys me food products that I won't eat, and cut flowers (which I see as a waste of money and resources) and other items I have no use for (e.g an earring case, a beautiful one I must add, but I do not have my ears pierced and never have had!).
However when I have got it wrong and bought a gift he does not appreciate, he makes a show of me for it !
I bought a bonsai tree a few years ago for him , and he put his sarcastic head on 'Oh I'm RIGHT into that!!' in front of everybody I thought it was cute.
I also made gifts one year-I'm no craftsman, but I took care and made home-made chocolates in little boxes that I'd decorated, along with some candle-holders and some other things. Everybody found this hilarious and asked if I was particularly broke this year. Then the chocolates were polished off WAY before dinner.

If I receive 'Tat' I reuse it, make use of it some other way, or pass it along to those who will want to use it. One man's junk is another's treasure.
I think we're in an era where, if people want something-they generally go and get it. Gifts are harder to find because of this. Unless you spend a lot of money or go out of your way bigtime, it's difficult. I start shopping for gifts early and try to find unusual things. USUALLY I manage to.
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