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Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington
Susie, I cannot tell you how pleased I am to see this post.
You have had a rough old trot...and still are not completely over it. I send you my best wishes for the carers to give you kind care, the district nurses to have gentle hands......the antibiotics to be fierce against the bugs, but kind to you(I know that won't happen any time soon) and that Richard can feel less grumpy.
If I am being kind, I would have to say it is just as hard to watch someone you care about getting sicker by the day and not knowing how to help...or not being able to help in a practical way.
It was lovely speaking to you too....I was afraid I had spooked you or aggravated you...I know from my own recent experinecs that when you are sick you don't always have the patience to talk.......and if you had told me to 'bu88er off'......I would happily have done so, as my mission was complete.......I could report back and say I had spoken to you.  |
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Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington
I do wish that there were still the old convalescent homes...like the one I used to send my ladies to in Southport.
There they got sea air, good food and were looked after for 3 weeks.
I know it is going to take longer than 3 weeks to get better Sue, but 3 weeks in a non hospital environment...but with care like you had in the hsopital would give Richard a break, and you too would not have to worry about meals, laundry and all the other things that make life harder than it needs to be.
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Maybe I should have gone to the hospice and given Richard a proper break but I think it's the sparring and the grumpiness that keeps up going. I couldn't envisage being on my own and he would still have to visit as he did in hospital. Anyway I like planning our meals even if I can't cook them any more and he can't cook for toffee (did somebody mention toffee? Treacle please as it's nearly Bonfire Night.)
I know that it's frustrating for him not to be able to help and you've had long experience of this sort of thing both in your job and more recently with your family. We'll get through it... Three weeks in Southport sounds lovely though...
Once again thanks for getting in touch and I wish you and your family well in their difficulties.
BTW I wonder where you got the idea from that Richard was not computer literate as you mentioned in a previous post, or were you joking?
He spends all his time at work looking after ancient computers and then comes home and starts on his own projects. He would do it 24/7 if he could and says it's his way of relaxing but I do wish he'd find something else as well. He does however come in useful when my computer needs fixing!