[Margaret Pilkington]

I think it is easy to over think the emotions that might be expressed by using one word rather than another.
I could very easily say that I envy my sisters home and her living environment - she lives in Australia, but there would be absolutely no resentment on my part.
I am glad she has a very good life style.
Sometimes words might have very 'black and white' meanings as far as the dictionary is concerned, but common usage may make the meaning less well defined.

I'm sure the people who used this term didn't mean to make you feel uncomfortable, and would probably be upset if they knew this was how you had taken their comment.
You are reacting emotionally too.... And only you can change that

That is my take on it Margaret. I am very pleased that you are comfortable in your home.
It is somewhere that you spend all your time, so it needs to be a happy place for you.