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Originally Posted by Accyexplorer
My point was we (the working class) are,as we were then,being shafted by those with the money.
We are railroaded through social pressures,to use extortionately priced services,in order to try an give relatives that "good send off" so that we are not seen as being tight fisted.
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When someone we love dies, we are consumed by the things we might have done, but perhaps didn't. We think about our loved ones life and we view it through a different perspective.
It is natural to try and give the one we loved the
right kind of funeral..one which reflects them and their life.. It is part of the rituals that have been carried out since the beginning of time.
Most of my cohorts have their ideas about the tying up of life's loose ends.....some of them have their funerals planned down to the nth degree...the music is planned the service is planned and in some cases even paid for.
There is no social pressure to use extortionately priced services......those who spare no expense in organising a funeral for a family member maybe doing it because that is what
they want to do( and it maybe out of love or it maybe out of guilt.Like everything else in life you can shop around for the best deal...you are not FORCED to use expensive services...though some costs cannot be cut..the cost of cremation or the cost of a plot I think are set by the council...I'm sure if this is wrong someone will enlighten me)
A 'good send off' is very subjective. Do not buy me flowers when I am dead and cannot see them or enjoy them...if you didn't bother in life, then my death is not a time to do it either.
I do not care what other people think of me....my self esteem does not rely on someone else's opinions of me......and that is how I conduct my life.....I hope that when I die it will be just the same. My family know my wishes and I have told them that if they are not followed they can expect a dig in the ribs from the spirit world.