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WillowTheWhisp · 09-03-2005, 16:07

My eldest daughter, normally fairly popular at school with a bunch of friends, has been quite miserable over the past few days with no-one to "hang round with" at school. The reason for this is that she is the victim of "indirect bullying" where the bully has ordered other children not to speak to her. They haven't been talking to her because they felt intimidated by the bully. Why was the girl doing this one wonders. It seems that she was one of a bunch of friends of my daughter but found herself a "best" friend.(There seems to be an inability amongst some teenagers to relate to more than one person at once.) However, she then sees that she has less friends than my daughter so proceeds to ensure that my daughter has even fewer than one.

When my daughter told me about this I advised her just to go with the flow for a while to see if she would come round, or the other girls start ignoring her bullying and things get back to normal but they didn't and so despairing of possibly spending the rest of her school years a lone and lonely figure she decided to approach the "mentor" - a member of staff whose role it is to deal with bullying problems. She talked to both girls. Her solution to the problem?

Wait for it.

She asked my daughter how she felt about changing schools! Oh yes, an excellent way to ensure that bullies are aware of the success of bullying tactics. Needless to say she does not intend to take that advice and disrupt her education, and today she has had one girl to "hang out" with at least. Perhaps the rest will now brave the bully and follow suit.

I'm just left amazed at the school's method of dealing with this problem.

09-03-2005, 16:07	#1
WillowTheWhisp Resident Waffler Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Accrington, Hyndburn Posts: 18,142 Blog Entries: 14 Liked: 14 times Rep Power: 1062	Things that make you go "uh?" My eldest daughter, normally fairly popular at school with a bunch of friends, has been quite miserable over the past few days with no-one to "hang round with" at school. The reason for this is that she is the victim of "indirect bullying" where the bully has ordered other children not to speak to her. They haven't been talking to her because they felt intimidated by the bully. Why was the girl doing this one wonders. It seems that she was one of a bunch of friends of my daughter but found herself a "best" friend.(There seems to be an inability amongst some teenagers to relate to more than one person at once.) However, she then sees that she has less friends than my daughter so proceeds to ensure that my daughter has even fewer than one. When my daughter told me about this I advised her just to go with the flow for a while to see if she would come round, or the other girls start ignoring her bullying and things get back to normal but they didn't and so despairing of possibly spending the rest of her school years a lone and lonely figure she decided to approach the "mentor" - a member of staff whose role it is to deal with bullying problems. She talked to both girls. Her solution to the problem? Wait for it. She asked my daughter how she felt about changing schools! Oh yes, an excellent way to ensure that bullies are aware of the success of bullying tactics. Needless to say she does not intend to take that advice and disrupt her education, and today she has had one girl to "hang out" with at least. Perhaps the rest will now brave the bully and follow suit. I'm just left amazed at the school's method of dealing with this problem. __________________ Last edited by WillowTheWhisp; 09-03-2005 at 16:09.