[WillowTheWhisp]

Thankfully not all old people are the same and some seem to get pleasure from being cantankerous but I recall having read something recently that the sort of impossible to cope with behaviour which carers find so frustrating and which makes trying to help the elderly a thankless task is related to a sort of pre-dementia and they are probably unaware that they have undergone a personality change.

I had an elderly relative who constantly complained that no-one ever visited her. She would tell the same tale of woe to every visitor so that each in turn was under the impression that they were the only ones who ever went anywhere near. It was only by talking to each other that we realised she had lots of visitors and should have been grateful considering how grumpy she always was whenever we visited.