[WillowTheWhisp]

Originally Posted by slinky

Willow, wouldn't it be a dull world if everyone was the same stick thin shape....?

This is quoted from you Margaret. I'm STICK thin shape, who says I like to be called STICK thin shape??
I wouldn't say to someone fat " oh wouldn't it be a horrible world if we were all "beach whale shape"??

What I'm saying is, just because you are slim, doesn't mean you have a fantastic life, and you are adored by everyone!!!!..........

I have always been very slim, and would do anything to gain a little weight, but I eat like a horse, much more than I should (I LOVE FOOD) but can never but weight on.

Do you see in magazines, does it ever say "1001 ways to gain weight"?? ..........NO!! it doesn't. It's always about bigger people, how to lose weight. So I think there is more help available for people to lose weight than to put it on.

Then you get people asking if you have a problem. My doctor when I was pregnant was always making comments that I was anorexic, which ginger thought was absolutely Hilarius, judging on the amount of food I eat.

So..........see us STICK thin people may not like it either!!!!!!!!!!!

It's good to see a slim person admitting that they eat like a horse and would love to gain weight. Slim is portrayed by the media and by other thin people as the ideal to aspire to which is probably why there is very little advice on gaining weight. Gaining weight is regarded as the big taboo, the thing to be avoided at all costs.

I would LOVE to be thin and if by some miracle I was ever able to be and heard someone call me "stick thin" I would be overjoyed - but I just know it is never going to be.

Yes people do call fat people "beached whales" - some do it behind our backs and others do it to our faces. Some call us far worse than that and think that because we are fat we should just take any insult because our fat ugly shape is our own fault. They make the mistake of thinking that we aren't trying to do something about it and that we are content to be as we are. Or they talk in loud voices to each other about us as if we aren't there or are deaf.

I would never imagine saying to anyone "Good grief look at you, you're a horrible ugly stick!" because to me thin is far from ugly - I would look admiringly upon someone with a slim figure and if I said anything at all it would be something complimentary because slim is the ideal we are all supposed to aspire to. It is difficult for me to imagine a slim person who is dissatisfied with their shape and wants to put on weight.

But thank you for saying what you did about how much you eat because ignorant people find it so difficult to believe that a fat person can possibly be eating less than a slim person. They just assume that people like me are greedy pigs with no self control........... witness Pendy's remark thaty it all comes down to willpower.

I notice on AccyWeb how many times people talk about going out for meals or going out drinking (which can be very calorific) yet it's something I rarely do. The only time we go to a pub and drink has been an odd drink on holiday (and I mean just one or two) which for me is a J2O or something similar or at past AccyWeb meetings, where everyone else always seems to be ahead of us anyway. As for meals out, well it shows how often I've been used to eating out when I don't know any good places to go and the place I recommended to Busman when he first came up here was somewhere I'd been over 3 years previously and had deteriorated since then.