Oh gawd i know the feeling, when they said being a parent was the hardest thing - they were damn right! lol But yeah i think every generation has points about their childhood that they see they mustn't inflict on the next & in cases some do repeat patterns. If your parents were un-emotionally connected with you as a child that upset you so then you find that when yours came along that you engaged more emotonally with them so not to cause the pain you suffered or the rejection or lack of understanding you felt then....if you get me
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Same said if you lost a mum or a dad in your life {died or left] then for your kids you would make every emeanable attempt your kids would have that parent in their lives more important. People that watched their parents suffer to stay in a marriage for the sake of the kids only - dont do that to their kids. if you were poor as a child & did without then you would probably spoil your kids more by giving them what you hadn't - i think thats more of the issue as to what im saying - its all about giving your offspring better than you had - whether its right or wrong we dont know till they grow up i'suppose.
Interesting thread Lancyorkyankee i wondered much the same thing - always questioning am i doing right here certainly with regards to my offspring, so presuming we are normal then hehehehehe
