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Old 28-08-2006, 11:57   #11
Margaret Pilkington
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Re: Does it hurt as much to be a Grandparent?

I can't tell you HOW much I hate that word....it has caused endless friction between hubby and me......though my daughter (who perhaps should be hurt by my dislike of the word, doesn't mind one bit) It isn't anything to do with age....it is as if I am to be defined by a role that I NEVER thought I would be....and truly never WANTED to be.
I don't consider myself to be child friendly.....and I am being really honest here......I never really wanted children, and I only had one to appease my husband (bad reason, I know) I never liked babies and if someone came within a couple of feet of me with a babe in arms I would get as far away as possible. I never coo and gurgle over babies.......having said that I approach it with the same commitment you would have with a job....and I do the very best that I can. It has been very hard for me to adapt....and but for me changing how I view the role, I COULD have made my life very miserable.

We aren't all cut out to be mothers, and I wasn't cut out from the soft cuddly cloth that those G people are made from......I'm scratchy and tough......that's just how it is!
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