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I too have seen this from both sides. You all know me as the cuddly 15 stone bloke I am at the minute. Yet 12 years ago when I met Julie I was just over 10 stone. Looking at pictures taken at the time I now think I looked ill(BTW, this wasn't a diet weight, it was the result of a very active job and a high metabolism, in fact I did nowt but eat all day long in the restaurant!) I also couldn't put weight on no matter what I tried. I was very close to seeing a quack to find out if there was something they could do to help. Then I changed career, I went from running around a two storey pub restaurant for 12 hours a day to sat on my thick end for 8. My weight crept up steadily and tbh it was so gradual I didn't notice it that much. Now I'm trying to lose some weight. I want to be about 13 1/2 stone. This isn't even 'normal' if you count it on BMI charts but I know that with my build that it will be as Mel says, "in proportion".

Weight is very subjective. People have this idea of what they should weigh. personally I am not that vain that I have to conform to some 'ideal look'. I wear what I feel comfortable in, I drive what I like and I WILL weigh whatever feels right for me even if it is technically overweight.

Slinks, your not 'skinny' you are slender. nowt wrong with that. If you would like to add a few pounds, thats up to you, if you don't then its equally fine as you are.