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Originally Posted by MUMMIBOO
Well what a difficult thread and post to make!
I went for my first scan on Thursday i was 11 weeks pregnant with 3rd baby wanted very much we had been trying since December we managed to get pregnant in September we were soo excited,
Like i said i went for my first scan on Thursday only to be told that my baby was the size of a 9 week old and that its heart had stopped beating at around 9 weeks. I didnt have a clue i had no pain and no bleeding i couldnt believe what she was saying to me i had a picture from the scan and it looks perfect soo cute.
The midwife said my bodys not accepting i have lost the baby and is still feeding it thats why i still feel pregnant! I have been told to give it till Thursaday and see if my body rejects it on its own if not then medical intervention will be needed same thing as what happends when you have an abortion!.
I just cant see at the moment how people can just kill or get rid of children or the makings of them when there are people around who are trying and trying for children all the people who cant have them i know its not their problem but i just think for the right reasons then fair enough but just for the sake of it is wrong.
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Hugs & thoughts are with u mummiboo, Totally understand had the simular sort of experience myself with my 1st, altho a bit later on - lets say my scan wasn't pretty at all, the medical term was a missed abortion {that iself was an insult term]where the baby dies & break down body doesnt reject it - that was very hard & still is to come to terms with. Find the topic pretty insensitive in all honestly as it was put across initially.
Personally despite my own experience is that its upto the individual - after what i went thro that made it all the harder for me to consider & my conscious wouldnt allow it ! But that is me as well as a few people, but honestly i beleive in choice & making the right choice dependant on circumstances, think how many more very young mums there would be who simply havent the support nor couldnt cope or handle it, then theres rape situations, we have an amount of kids in care mainly due to irresponsible parents - that many i know say they are anti abortion but also dont condone kids being with so called bad parents, the care system is fully clogged up atm - so whats the solution ? This country isnt as bad as some countriies where enforced birth control management is conditioned for lesser reasons! Even stranger religions not condoning birth control methods considered pre abortion & then have the unwanted pregnancy to which some never bond with -duely effecting that childs welbeing. Adoption is another answer but again a controversial topic in itself.
I suppose the offer is freely available certainly for possible disabled or 'non perfect' kids - i was offered one with my youngest cos of a minor diasblement condition
which did insult & horrify me
now that is out of order! I have an aunt who couldnt have kids & couldnt imagine how she felt or still feels especially hard for her when she is in company of family with kids nevermind with the wealth of mis treated or even this topic would be of upset.
So as with owt in life nothing is in clear full techni colour typically its covered in + & - 's all over, as i've said in another thread sex ed is worrying prevention is better than a cure, i agree with billcat if it was not legalised then we would be back to the old back st butchers making a buck & totally ruining many womens lives for the NHS to only rectify later, as with owt where their is illegality then there will always be someone un qualified & expensive underground to fill the void - which would be worse!