[WillowTheWhisp]

Originally Posted by lindsay ormerod

Whilst waiting for "things to get better" in the last 24 hours a friend has been run over by a car on a zebra crossing and my mum's cat has died.I must have done something really bad in a previous life !

I don't believe that things happen to us as a form of punishment. Look at all the wicked people in the world who always come up smelling of roses. And I don't believe in reincarnation either. Things happen to us as a consequence of mistakes made by us or by other people. It's just cause and effect.

I do hope that your friend isn't too badly hurt and will make a full recovery and commiserations to your Mum on the loss of her cat. Losing a family pet can be heartbreaking I know.

I know it's awful when a lot of things happen so close together. Not long after my first husband died (in hospital of a DVT) our dog died and then my eldest daughter was rushed to the same hospital her Dad had been in and her life hung in the balance having been run over on her way to school. To look at her now you'd never believe she had so many broken bones not to mention lung damage and she still has a horrendous scar on her knee but she's alive and kicking and has just as much attitude as any other teenager.

I won't say things will get better because we never know what's going to happen next. All I can say is that somehow I managed to cope with all these things and I'm sure you will too. If there is anything practical that you need, like a new job, I hope that it will be better than the last one and that one day you'll look back and see the demise of MZ as a blessing in disguise.

Good luck to you in whatever the future brings. Try to think positive, I know it's not easy though.