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accymel · 08-03-2007, 21:57

True point billcat, many victims dont tell anyone, usually hide bruises, cuts, burns, rape, they dont tell a soul, mind u some violent partners got wise & hit or hurt areas that wasn't on view either like avoiding the face. Nobody knew i was suffering it for years definately not family not even my best mates - not even the one best mate i come to depend on later for survival!! If i did come a cropper with many a black eye it was blamed on an accident or cupboard doors with me [really funny thing was when in refuge & safe for ONCE i actually did open the cupboard too fast & caught my face - i pmsl cos for once it was actually genuine & became a standing joke in refuge with me humour accepted].

It is a very silent hidden secret thing as scared for my life & also not being believed was a huge factor [my x was very charming & very convincing - even one look from him would signal fear if i was in trouble by him so would know when i would be in for it], it wasn't till i actually left the house never to go back was when i banged on my best mates door & let it all out in a humiliated blurt & sob.

Keeping free from them is the next stage - where its blumming hard, draining & need serious wits to keep safe from harm, many victims like myself have been harmed just as much after they have left that relationship, i was assaulted, harrassed, stalked & verbally assaulted as well as criminal damage all to create more fear from then - so in their sicko mind u cant live alone & coming back to them would be easier they hope! It takes amazing strength, so can understand to a point that many do struggle & end up back.

Me, Lettie & many others are a symbol of hope & proof that u can break free & live much better free from it. I hear many stories, see many people [u can spot them] & have friends or aquaintances that are stuck in that horrible environment whom just either can see it because of the stronghold, false beleifs, & hasn't the strength to leave!! It takes me back i must admit but also re inforces that im so glad not to live like that again, but also sad that some people do put up with it when they dont need to, as there is help out there but u do have to admit & want help 1st, & thats the hard initial step for many.

08-03-2007, 21:57	#35
accymel I am Banned Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 7,688 Liked: 0 times Rep Power: 0	Re: Am i jealous? True point billcat, many victims dont tell anyone, usually hide bruises, cuts, burns, rape, they dont tell a soul, mind u some violent partners got wise & hit or hurt areas that wasn't on view either like avoiding the face. Nobody knew i was suffering it for years definately not family not even my best mates - not even the one best mate i come to depend on later for survival!! If i did come a cropper with many a black eye it was blamed on an accident or cupboard doors with me [really funny thing was when in refuge & safe for ONCE i actually did open the cupboard too fast & caught my face - i pmsl cos for once it was actually genuine & became a standing joke in refuge with me humour accepted]. It is a very silent hidden secret thing as scared for my life & also not being believed was a huge factor [my x was very charming & very convincing - even one look from him would signal fear if i was in trouble by him so would know when i would be in for it], it wasn't till i actually left the house never to go back was when i banged on my best mates door & let it all out in a humiliated blurt & sob. Keeping free from them is the next stage - where its blumming hard, draining & need serious wits to keep safe from harm, many victims like myself have been harmed just as much after they have left that relationship, i was assaulted, harrassed, stalked & verbally assaulted as well as criminal damage all to create more fear from then - so in their sicko mind u cant live alone & coming back to them would be easier they hope! It takes amazing strength, so can understand to a point that many do struggle & end up back. Me, Lettie & many others are a symbol of hope & proof that u can break free & live much better free from it. I hear many stories, see many people [u can spot them] & have friends or aquaintances that are stuck in that horrible environment whom just either can see it because of the stronghold, false beleifs, & hasn't the strength to leave!! It takes me back i must admit but also re inforces that im so glad not to live like that again, but also sad that some people do put up with it when they dont need to, as there is help out there but u do have to admit & want help 1st, & thats the hard initial step for many.