Wow thankyou for all your replies
(some are v sad,and some made me laugh!)
I will do it-your posts will give me the courage...hopefully.
Even when i imagine doing it i get all flustered
but i must remember all you peeps who said for you it is now too late-i really feel for you guys x
Lil' Jack is sick of me cuddling him and telling him 'i love you'-although he has picked it up and this month just started ASKING for hugs!(v strange-he wasn't keen on hugging from about 6 months) and lovingly pats me whilst hugging me-its soo sweet.
I shall keep you updated on the situation.
(btw i do phone them,not often enough, but i do!and i do send cards and things showing i care-i just cant SAY i love you).