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Originally Posted by Stanaccy

As for the depression Chav you have to either know someone who suffers from it or suffer from it yourself to understand it. I can understand why people have attacked you for your statements.

As I said elsewhere, I have a friend whose husband was/is a sufferer and as a result at the deepest darkest times the whole family suffered. To an outsider it may have looked like he was swinging the lead, it didn't look like there was anything wrong with him, but you had to know the family well to know the hell they were going through. It wasn't even something the wife would share with many because it left her feeling inadequate at not being able to cope with and help her husband. It's impossible for the unqualified to judge who is or is not genuine.

If anyone had said to him "if you lack the mental ability to cope with life then at least have the decency to top your self quietly so as not to bother everyone else who manages to cope" he probably would have done it. His wife and children would not have been grateful for that - they wouldn't have felt less bothered. They would have been devastated. They'd have been heartborken because in spite of everything they love him and just wanted to get back the same old husband and father they knew.

If you are someone who is able to cope with whatever life chucks at you then by all means be thankful for that but please don't belittle others who can't. I wouldn't say to someone with a physical ailment, "Look my body can handle that situation so why can't yours? Get control of it or end your less than perfect existence so the able bodied people around don't have to be troubled by the sight of your imperfect body" That would be an appalling thing to say and incredibly cruel and yet people can be equally cruel to those with invisible disabilities.