I grew up thinking spanking (slap to the hand or a smack on the butt) were very normal as was being beaten bare legged with a belt. We were slapped for the most minor of perceived infractions quite regularly while the beatings were more of a monthly thing for me and my big brother. Me and my siblings obeyed, especially in public, out of shear fear.
Because of this background, I was so very scared to have children when Cindy and I got married. I really didn't know what proper discipline was. Her family was more of threats not carried out or very loud screaming and yelling.
We waited 5 years and I believe have done quite well with disipline. Neither child ever beaten or hit out of anger. Both only spanked occassionally when small and then did the "no TV, computer, video game etc." thing.
I don't believe Cindy has ever spanked them but she does scream a bit. When they just yelled back I'd have to either tell Cindy to give em a smack or I would. That calmed everyone, except me, down!
And that's my 2 cents. I've got another 2 cents to be held till later!
Brian