Quote:
Originally Posted by CASPER
I don't understand how it helps to smack a toddler who is having a tantrum. As an ex childminder and mother of two I have had to deal with many a tantruming toddler and NEVER had to resort to violence.
|
From what I have seen, smacking a child who is having a tantrum is counterproductive. The response metely escalates the tantrum to a whole new level. The most effective response to a tantrum is to simply endure it stoically and allow it to blow out to sea. If the tantrum occurs in public, the response usually is to stop everything and go home. Once the child finds the tactic ineffective, the behavior eventually ceases. It takes a lot of patience and forebearance torespond in this way, but it works.
I've even used this tactic with a couple of screamers in higher management. fortunately, I don't encounter many of them, but if someone screams at me, I just tell them that we will discuss the matter later and calmly (at least, on the surface) walk away. I let them know that I am quite willing to discuss their requests (reasonably), but not in that way. I may put my job at risk, but not my self-respect. It's amazing how it alters the relationship. And - while I've been threatened with dismissal, I've never been sacked!