[Margaret Pilkington]

It is purely finding out what works for you. I don't really remember my daughter having many tantrums......but then it IS a long time since she was that age (sorry Nicola).
As I have said in previous posts....smacking is an absolute last resort.....but it is one that I will use if I HAVE to......I believe that if his mother trusts me to make a decision over discipline, then I should have the right to do this.....and I do not see a smack as violence.....a punch is violent, a thump is violent, shouting and screaming to me is a form of violence and the marks may not show, but believe me that kind of abuse is far more damaging than a smack.