[WillowTheWhisp]

I have never personally been on the dole Jambutty but as I said earlier my later husband once was when he was made redundant following illness and he took a cleaning job. He applied for all kinds of jobs he could find not because he wanted to do that work but because they were there and he wanted to work. He even applied for potato peeling which has to be about the most boring thing ever.

Yes I do agree that it isn't always practical to uproot yourself to go and work in another part of the country especially if your spouse is already in work but I also have friends who have done precisely that. One family moved down south and subsequently abroad. One family moved to the Cambridgeshire fens where he had a job waiting and she later found one and another moved to Huntingdon to do a job he had absolutely no experience in but they were so impressed by his references in what he had done and he has made a successful career.

Yet another family have moved to France which meant not only uprooting the children but plunging them into a different culture with a different language.

I think it all depends on if you are looking at your glass as being half empty or half full. The ones who see it as half empty fear losing the half they have. The ones who see it as half full keep on trying until they can fill it up.