so my mum died this afternoon...
but before folk start saying sorry to hear and all that stuff please let me explain that I am not sad at all - infact I am not actually bothered..but I am curious to know what people think...
let me explain...
I did not have a good childhood and was battered black and blue
from an early age by my mum - whether it was with a stilleto, belt, or the poker from the fire - I got it - this went on for years and she often went out and left me and my sisters alone to fend for ourselves so I did grow up resenting my mum and not having a close relationship that a mother and son should have..
anyway regardless of my relationship with her I didnt move out thorugh misguided loyalty ?...but when I met the other half I did go..however she gave me a volley of abuse for doing so and once more she did the same when I told her I was moving down here...
I was told last year that she was dying from cancer and that I should go and see her...at christmas whilst in scotland through the pressure of my sisters I went and seen her - for the first time in 8 years
but couldnt look her in the eye and only spoke one word to her...which was 'fine' - when she asked how I was...
and today I got the phone call that she died this afternoon...but like I have mentioned - I am not really bothered about it as she was never there for me as a child - why should I be there for her now ?
I am in 2 mind on whether to go to her funeral as I know there will be a few realtives tutting at me - but they dont know what she done to me as a kid...
would it be right or wrong for me not to go ??
your thoughts on this matter please...
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