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Originally Posted by blazey
I think you should go, because you might regret not properly saying good bye to her. Although you might despise her for the way she treated you, everything that has happened to you in your life has shaped you into the person you are today. I think you may feel better if you try and forgive her for what she did, because although she didn't show it, like any mother I'm sure she loved you as her son very much.
I'm sure she'd have loved you regardless if you had been the one who acted in such a way. They say that even the mothers of the most terrible murderers and criminals still love their sons regardless. I'm sure it can work vice versa and you might be able to find enough love for your mum to say your final goodbyes to her?
Don't be stubborn and live to regret it, that's all I'm saying really. But dont go if you truly cant find it in your heart to forgive her or give her any real compassion.
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a mother who tells her son that she wished he died at birth is not a mother who loves her son - in my eyes
and I cannot forgive her for what she done to me as a kid - how I dont have any emotional/mental scars from it is anyones guess...
I am not being stubborn about it...simply realistic about it...and the only reason I would go if my sisters asked me to go.
I would go for them - not for me to say any goodbyes - my goodbyes were said 8 years ago when she abused me down the phone after telling her I was moving to england...
she has been making her bed for the last 30 years - now she can lie in it for eternity..