[Doug]

Do what’s right for you. If you go you may find closure, you might find it in yourself to stand aside of your past and forgive your mother for her abuse and in doing so you may yourself feel stronger and find the strength to move on. You’ll never forget what happened and don’t say your mothers death isn’t affecting you, it clearly is. If you don’t go in time you might regret it.

If you go, your in control, you get go as close or as far away from your mothers remains as you choose, you can choose who you associate with. Above all you’ll know one way or the other if it was the right thing for you. If you don’t go you might find yourself asking questions and allowing the past to follow you through life.

There’s a lot of pain here, people should keep that in mind when replying…


What ever your choice I hope you find peace and if possible forgiveness.