[Margaret Pilkington]

GG you must do what feels best for you.
As other people have observed.....only you know what is the right thing.
If you do go, then you don't have to sit and listen to a false eulogy spoken by someone who knows nothing about the past.....you can go the the coffin and tell your Mum your pain....how you were made to feel worthless.......and how this made you feel.
Or you could stay at home and write down your feelings and then burn them....each of those things may help you to achieve closure......as for revenge. No, it doesn't help anything. Just be glad you have found someone in your life who makes living good, and focus on your family.
I wish peace for you.