[shillelagh]

Yes i would been there and had the tshirt. Some homes i put my mother in - she never went back, others she went back to them time and time again. When she got worse she had to go to one with an EMI unit - and god i hated that home - but mum said it was ok - and went back twice - the last time was just before she died. It was a fight to get her to go as she was going in on respite for a week or 2 weeks. Before she died i was told by our social worker for my own health it was time for mum to go into a home full time - i was finding it hard to deal with her - she had me in tears a few times, carers were refusing to come to our house to get her up and she needed care 24 hrs a day.

Its true though some homes they didnt seem to care, others pretended to care when family or visitors were around and as soon as they went they ignored them, other homes they did seem to care. Best was mum - she told us what was going on - what it was like if they looked after her. Cos mum was going in on respite under the lcc scheme the social worker always gave us a form to fill in on how we rated the home etc which we filled in with mums help. Most of the homes did say they'd have her back - a couple of them wouldnt and told us as well.