[derekgas]

Just to cover some of the points raised here, but in relation to our kids, I work 6 days, partner works 5, though I know some people have a full time job which pays very well and is more like part time hours, our life isnt like that, also, the 2 children who are 'problematic', have seen doctors, psychologists etc, and have no autism, adhd or anything else wrong with them, they are loved and cared for and have plenty to occupy them both with us and on thier own, there has even been a suggestion that they should be outside more, as we are having numerous works done outside, the garden is not an option at the minute, and I refuse to allow them out on the street as many parents around here do.