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Hi

I'm currently in the same situation with my Mum. Only difference is that we have been told by the NHS that Mum HAS to be in a nursing home full stop. They will fund the nursing element of the care .........currently at £101 per week, the rest we have to make up ourselves. The full cost is £545 per week. Mum will still get her pension and her attendance allowance that she got before, as she is self funding.

In answer to your question Mr D..............yes your relative wil be asked to sell their home if they can't make up the cost of paying the fees from savings. The value of their home will be classed as "savings" whether it is sold or not.

You cannot at this stage sign the home over to somebody else, or let somebody else live in it if they are not there already. That is actually classed as fraud. Don't mean that to be a dig at you personally, it's what I have been told myself.

I had a big argument at the meeting about my Mum yesterday. I was told that Mum HAS to be in a nursing home, but that we will only get £101 per week for the nursing care towards it. So my reply was, well, if your not funding it, and your saying that Mum is not poorly enough to warrant continueing care then I'm taking her home. I was told point blank that I couldn't.

So, because my Mum has worked all her life, and owns her own house we now have to sell it to pay for Mums care. If Mum had not worked all her life, claimed the dole and lived in a council house the care would be paid for by the Social Services.

Call this fair!! I don't think so.

Sorry, I'm going off on one here.

Mr D..................try ringing the local Age Concern office and ask them for advice. They are well up on these kind of things and will offer you heaps of advice.