[Gayle]

Yes, I didn't mean it to sound like I'm heartless when it comes to deaths of older people - my Grandad died eight years ago and I still go away sometimes and have a cry about it (the other week when we were talking about songs that mean a lot to us, for example!). I still haven't been able to listen to the link that Less posted for me.

I think what I meant was that when it's an older person you can celebrate their life, you have many generations of a family there who are recognising the wisdom and love that has been passed on to them. When it's a younger person (for example the woman I knew who had two young children) it just feels plain wrong to be at their funeral.