[Margaret Pilkington]

Well said Forceten......because a relative is in a care facility doesn't mean they aren't valued and loved by their family....and often families feel a great burden of guilt at having been forced(sometimes by circumstances beyond their control) to commit their loved one to a nursing home/care home.

My next door neighbour loves his wife very much, she suffers from dementia(wanders, falls and can sometimes be violent) and he made himself very ill from lack of sleep trying desperately not to have her taken out of her own home. In the end he was left with no alternative but to allow her to go into care. He visits every single day and spens in excess of 4 hour with her.....takes her tasty titbits and brings home her clothes to wash. That is devotion. His life revolves around his visits to his wife....in fact he has no other life to speak of