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forceten · 29-08-2008, 22:23

I didn't want to start a new thread as I knew that there was one somewhere on here.

I apoligise that I haven't updated it. But I was a member on blackburn 247 and that is where it was updated.

Mum went to a nursing home. They decided a few months down the line that they couldn't cope with her and her needs.

So Mum has now moved to another nursing home. One that is alot better than the one she was previously in.

I can't go into much detail here to be honest as there is probably going to be a legal battle going on.

Social services are on my side, and are bringing the safeguarding of adults into it, it was previously the adult abuse act. So you can appreciate how serious this issue is.

This is for a lady that can do nothing for herself. She can't feed herself, can't speak properly, can't read anymore, is doubly incontinent, can go tachocardic, amongst many other medical problems since she had the stroke. Mum can't walk anymore, and can't even sit in a chair if it's not specailly adapted for her.

But social services are acting for me, and Mum is ok where she is. I say short of her being happy, as I know that she will never be happy until she is home, but that is impossible. I've even offered to have my house adapted and have nurse in, but I have been told no, she needs to be in nursing home where her needs are met.

It's broke my heart all this. And the final straw was what the old nursing home did to my mum and myself whilst my mum was in hospital.........only a full week after I said that there was something wrong with Mum............but hey, who am I?

I'm confident now that I have got the nursing home for mum right. Infact they only rang me last night asking me to go up and sit with her as she was upset and they couldn't settle her. Something that I had told the previous home I was prepared to do, but they never did

I have found out since that they just shut the door on Mum and waited until she stopped crying

Sorry, can't say much more at the moment, it's a legal battle, and one that I will take all the way.

Thanks for reading. I know that i'm rambling

29-08-2008, 22:23	#37
forceten Full Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: blackburn Posts: 391 Liked: 0 times Rep Power: 113	Re: My Mum I didn't want to start a new thread as I knew that there was one somewhere on here. I apoligise that I haven't updated it. But I was a member on blackburn 247 and that is where it was updated. Mum went to a nursing home. They decided a few months down the line that they couldn't cope with her and her needs. So Mum has now moved to another nursing home. One that is alot better than the one she was previously in. I can't go into much detail here to be honest as there is probably going to be a legal battle going on. Social services are on my side, and are bringing the safeguarding of adults into it, it was previously the adult abuse act. So you can appreciate how serious this issue is. This is for a lady that can do nothing for herself. She can't feed herself, can't speak properly, can't read anymore, is doubly incontinent, can go tachocardic, amongst many other medical problems since she had the stroke. Mum can't walk anymore, and can't even sit in a chair if it's not specailly adapted for her. But social services are acting for me, and Mum is ok where she is. I say short of her being happy, as I know that she will never be happy until she is home, but that is impossible. I've even offered to have my house adapted and have nurse in, but I have been told no, she needs to be in nursing home where her needs are met. It's broke my heart all this. And the final straw was what the old nursing home did to my mum and myself whilst my mum was in hospital.........only a full week after I said that there was something wrong with Mum............but hey, who am I? I'm confident now that I have got the nursing home for mum right. Infact they only rang me last night asking me to go up and sit with her as she was upset and they couldn't settle her. Something that I had told the previous home I was prepared to do, but they never did I have found out since that they just shut the door on Mum and waited until she stopped crying Sorry, can't say much more at the moment, it's a legal battle, and one that I will take all the way. Thanks for reading. I know that i'm rambling