[WillowTheWhisp]

What does it matter who your ex is currently with? Especially if you are with someone new yourself. If the past is over, it's over. To keep dwelling on it and feeling any sort of malice towards the ex seems to indicate that you haven't really got over the break up and moved on. Otherwise why would it matter?

As for what people look like, well I consider personality and character to be far more important than looks. I remember one very handsome young man I went out with but he was about as interesting as a wet Wednesday in Wigan. All he cared about was himself and being gorgeous.

If you set too much store on what someone looks like what would happen if they were disfigured in an accident? Would you cease to love them?

So these ex-boyfriends who now have girlfriends whom you consider to be unattractive are perhaps not so shallow and looking at the real person, the person within the physical shell and love them for what matters more than mere appearance.

If I saw an ex-boyfriend with a new girl I would be happy for him that he had found someone else. I know plenty of people who are friends with the wives of guys they used to go out with and one ex of mine became a close friend of my late husband and friend of all the family.