[Margaret Pilkington]

I can understand where you are coming from Blazey, but with the greatest respect, you can know very little about the difficulties of trying to relocate with a small child.
It all sounds good on paper....very easy and staightforward.

For instance child care is prohibitive....you would need a very good wage to pay for child care for a working day....and what do you do if you or your child fall ill........you have no social or family network to help you to cope.
How many places of employment have child care facilities......and though many employers may profess to be 'family friendly', in truth they cannot be.....because they want to make a profit.

The other problem is that employers can pick and choose as there are so many people in the job market....and do you think they would choose to employ a mother of a small child if there is another option?
It isn't people who build the walls....and thinking outside the box is just that.....thinking.....it is like rocking on a rocking chair, it doesn't matter how long you do it, it doesn't take you anywhere.
No you have to be realistic and realize that for some people moving to get a job is not an option they can take....much as they would like to.

You are in an enviable position of being young, free and without any family ties...so that gives you a head start....that and the fact that you are getting a uni education too.
There has to be an element of confidence, the confidence to take a risk....and you can be confident when there is only one person to consider(you).
for some people to leave the area would be a jump out of the frying pan and into the fire.

I truly hope that you never find yourself in Lolly's position.


And to Lolly, I am very sorry that life is so hard for you at present. I hope things get better for you soon.