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Originally Posted by Lolly
That just enforces my get real comment!
Do you know me? Do you know the circumstances of my sons birth?? Who said I was a teenager, for your information I was 23 when I had my son not some stupid teenage university student and I was in 2 very secure well paid jobs!!!!
I havent struggled at all since having Harry, it is only now that I have been made redundant that I am doing so. So what your saying is that because I have a child I can't make a success of myself and support my son. Oh no of course i cant as i'm not at university and of course only students make a success of themselves!!
You know nothing of my life and until you do please come down off your high horse and stop making comments of things you know nothing about!
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I haven't even said anything directed at you. I have a lot of friends in your situation who are doing perfectly well, in both work and college/uni. These are bad times for everyone.
You could go to uni if you wanted to. You'd get just as much support as me, with extra because you are a parent, you can live in family accommodation (at least at Lancaster you can) there is a creché, plenty of local schools and it'd be an opportunity to learn and try something new.
I wasn't directing anything specifically at you though and I never said anything about you being unable to do anything as a mum, loads of mums do plenty of things. J K Rowling would be a good example of a mum that has done that successfully. Lots of single mums also set up home businesses as well.
I will admit, not just as a student but as someone who works with kids, I never let myself get in the mindset that there just no other alternatives and you have to accept what you are given. I study at a university that initially rejected me after I didn't get the right A level grades after suffering from manic depression. I have to have counselling regularly, I don't sleep and I'm currently having to spend time in the doctors surgery being told I have the symptoms common to elderly sufferers of Alzheimers.
Oh but I'm just a 20yr old student, what the hell do I know about stress? God I just do a full time course and spend all my free time working with kids, doing charity work and supporting students with finding careers. What would I know about ANYTHING? I just go through courses training me in these things for a laugh, they have no value to anyone like YOU because you're older than me and I must be just patronising you.
Well I don't give a toss if you think I'm on my ivory tower, because I hunted the resources down and I built it my damn self with no support from college, no knowledge from my family about my possible choices and only the internet at my fingers, searching for opportunities.
I don't have time to dish out sympathy to people on the internet because there are people who rely on me day in and day out to share what I know with them and THEY don't throw it in my face with excuses, they swallow their pride and they try.